Earlier this week I ran into this lie again, one that too many women have fallen for. I had a conversation with a young lady who had gone through a difficult marriage and a terrible divorce. As she was recounting her actions and discussing where she went wrong, I heard the lie come out.<\/p>\n
Here\u2019s the biggest lie that women tell themselves when it comes to relationships: \u201cI\u2019ll fix him<\/strong>.\u201d She said she knew that he wasn\u2019t that good of a guy when she married him, but she figured she could fix him once they got married. My response (in a gentle yet mocking manner) was, \u201cSo, how\u2019d that work out for you?\u201d She laughed as she saw the fallacy of the lie that propelled her into a doomed marriage.<\/p>\n Marriage does change you, and spouses can and should have a strong influence on their mates, but this idea that a mature woman can quickly and single handedly \u2018fix\u2019 a immature man is ludicrous. Like it or not, men are who they are. Some are so stubborn, so set in their ways, that only God can change their hearts.<\/p>\n Ladies, a word of warning: If you\u2019re dating someone that you\u2019re thinking about marrying, and if he\u2019s got more flaws than not, don\u2019t delude yourself into thinking that you\u2019ll be able to \u2018fix him\u2019 once he walks down the aisle. You\u2019re stuck with what you\u2019ve got. Better to know that on the front end.<\/p>\n Be careful who you marry. If they still act like they\u2019re in high school, throw them back and let them grow up a little bit. God-fearing, wife-honoring men are hard to come by, but they\u2019re worth the wait.<\/p>\n QUESTION: Is there a bigger lie that women tell themselves when it comes to relationships?<\/em><\/p>\n image courtesy of www.freedigitalphotos.net<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Earlier this week I ran into this lie again, one that too many women have fallen for. I had a conversation with a young lady who had gone through a difficult marriage and a terrible divorce. As she was recounting her actions and discussing where she went wrong, I heard the lie come out. Here\u2019s […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2490,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[346,402,491,525,834,881,913,1191,1557,1577],"class_list":["post-917","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-dating","tag-divorce","tag-family-matters","tag-fix","tag-lie","tag-marriage","tag-men","tag-relationships","tag-what-im-teaching","tag-women"],"yoast_head":"\n