by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide
Debi moves on to Priestly/Steady/Servant women.
“My daughter who wrote the Teacher’s Guide for this book is a Servant, similar to a Priest type. From the time she was a small child, she “mothered” her little sister. She always enjoyed caring for the elderly. She was a wonderful young daughter, helping me do anything around the house.”
That sounds like a miserable childhood, actually. The daughter, who she never bothers to name in the chapter, is her second daughter Shiloh.
People never cease to amaze me. Sometimes the apple falls far away from the tree.
That’s a creepy thing a parent to brag about. The creepy aspect increases when Debi compares Shiloh’s number of suitors to Shoshonna and Rebekah.
I wonder if Shiloh would have preferred any of the other 26 men to the man she married.
Hey, Debi. Let me let you in on a secret. Many men like assertive women. Most men are not intimidated by an assertive woman – and why marry someone who is intimidated by a personality characteristic?
“It is so feminine, very different from males. “
My husband walked in on one of our male milkers feeding a batch of orphaned kittens. The milkers had set up a feeding schedule for the litter and would carefully wash and pet them so the kittens would get physical contact like the mom would have given. Clearly, our milkers are actually female. (I think I’m gonna keep that information to myself.)
“It is important for a Servant to not become a pitiful, little-brown-bird-person. Maintain your individuality and develop your gifts. Always keep in mind that it is good to be an Encourager, but not an Enabler. An Encourager helps people better themselves. An Enabler does things for people that they should be doing for themselves, healing their self-inflicted wounds and sympathizing with their poor vices to the point that they are enabled to continue their negative behavior without facing the consequences or assuming responsibility for change. This simple concept could be key in your life.”
*Gapes in shock*
Debi, that’s freaking awesome advice! If you had followed this theme throughout the book instead of explaining how to be an Enabler with real-life examples, your book would be so much better.
The only problem with this is that the ONLY example of a bigger picture in life Debi gives is in some kind of “ministry”. No secular work outside the home, no advanced education, no volunteer work for secular or government entities is ever mentioned.
Debi, you defined the Priestly type as being in the image of Jesus. You can’t whip Jesus out as an example because he’s the basis for the explanation.
I’d like a little more information on how these two are Servant-types, but that’s not going to happen.
This section got me to thinking: How did things work out for Shiloh of the 27 marriage proposals? Well, here’s her story of a “funny” moment at her wedding in the Teacher Guide of Preparing:
Mel is a science teacher who works with at-risk teens and lives on a dairy farm with her husband. She blogs at When Cows and Kids Collide