by Biblical Gender Roles at his blog Biblical Gender Roles – The Frustrated Feminist Wife
Our pal that thinks women don’t have a right to refuse sex in marriage is at it again. Now he’s worked up a mock police interview to show none of his points are actual abuse. Typical abuser behavior, justifying his abuse of the wife. Justifying economic abuse (against the Biblical standard that says a man supports his wife/family or he’s no better than a sinful heathen.) an he’s claiming he does not condone rape. Unbelievable the length some of these “Good Christian Patriarchs” will go to excuse their own abusive words and natures. Clearly he’s never seen any episodes of “Law & Order: SVU”.
The frustrated feminist wife
A woman comes into a police station and tells the officer at the front desk that she wants to report that her husband is committing domestic violence against her, including committing marital rape against her.
An officer takes her into a room to begin interviewing her.Officer: “Mam please describe to me incidents of marital rape and other types of domestic abuse that you husband has committed against you.”
Wife: “Well officer it all started 5 years ago after we got married. I turned him down when he asked for sex and he started telling me that because we had a Christian marriage, the he and I both had a right to have sex with one another, and except for short mutually agreed upon times for when were sick or otherwise unable to we ought not to turn down one another.”
Officer: “Did he force himself on you that night?”
Wife: “No – he just walked away, but I felt intimidated by the fact that he believed it was a sin for couples to deny each other, I felt pressure for the next time he wanted to have sex.”
Officer: “Ok – so tell me more.”
Wife: “I decided I needed to set my husband straight about sex. I believe every person’s body is their own and no one has a right to coerce or convince someone to have sex when they are not in the mood, not even in marriage. I shared this truth that all of us as enlightened people should accept now in modern society. I told him it is NEVER selfish for me not to want to have sex for any reason, but it is ALWAYS selfish for him to try and convince me to have sex when I am not in the mood.
I told him that I would no longer feel pressured to have sex with him, and that really sex is just a small part of marriage. I told him I believed sex in marriage was not a “right”, but a privilege and that it should only happen when BOTH he and I were in the mood because of how happy and in love we were with each other. In fact, I even told him that just because I don’t want to have sex that often, that does not mean I don’t love him, I just don’t need it that often. I said we ought to be able to enjoy our marriage with one another, without having to need sex all the time – it should happen on special occasions when we are both in the mood.”
Officer: “So how did he respond to that?”