Quoting Quiverfull: Great Reward Earned by Disciplining Children?

Quoting Quiverfull: Great Reward Earned by Disciplining Children? July 31, 2015

quotingquiverfullby Shalom Pearl Brand from No Greater Joy – Great Reward

Editor’s note: You know what Shalom is referring to when she uses the word ‘mold’ when she’s talking about training her children? It’s a more polite way to refer to using physical force to compel obedience, breaking their spirits. It was done to her and now she’s doing it to her children, the cycle of abuse continues, albeit nicely worded now. Giving ugly things newer safer-sounding names doesn’t make them any less awful.

“This past week the kids and I were coming home from town, and we were having a great time talking about God and eternity. I was explaining to them that this life is short and eternity is long, and that God has given us this short time as an opportunity to lay up treasure in heaven, and that if we spend our time wisely, our reward in heaven will be great. They asked me, ‘What do you mean, Mom?’ So I explained that if I tell them to take out the trash, and they obey, then they are being faithful in their obedience to me, and God will reward them a hundredfold. Just as I was saying this, we passed a dumpster that was overflowing with trash. My daughter, with all her child-like wisdom, pointed and said, ‘The dumpster man is going to be the richest man in heaven!’” Big Papa roared with laughter, which made all of us break into wild giggles. Like I said, life is sweet.

This life is just a short moment of time compared to all eternity. Are you using it to lay up treasure for the eternal? Your children are little souls that you have the power to mold in love or sorrow. Live life to the fullest, knowing that this is your opportunity to impact those around you.

My parents put us children first. They used each opportunity that was given to them to mold us in love, and now with their faithful example I am striving to do the same. My prayer is that you will as well.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • Rachel

    On a somewhat unrelated note, am I the only one who finds it creepy that Michael Pearl insists on being called Big Papa?

  • persephone

    Just more ego-pumping BS from a pseudo-patriarch.

  • Nea

    They used each opportunity that was given to them to mold us in love,

    Someone remind me: is Shalom the one who was lovingly molded to melt down like butter when asked what she wanted to eat one night, or the one that was lovingly molded to reverence her husband into third-world levels of poverty?

  • Saraquill

    It hurts to read that Shalom calls what her parents did to her “love.” Caring parents do not sustain their children on beatings and unwanted animal feed.

  • Antoinette Herrera

    If what Michael and Debi Pearl did to their children is love, who needs hate?

  • pl1224

    I found it creepy as well–all I could think of was “Big Daddy” from Tennessee Williams’ “Cat on a Hot tin Roof”.

  • Antoinette Herrera

    Or Papa-Daddy from Eudora Welty’s “Why I Live At The P.O.”

  • What about the boys? What are they doing now? I feel like I don’t know enough about the Pearl children.

  • Nea

    All I know is that one of the sons had a coffee business whose website is defunct and the Pearl parents said something about the other one enjoying hunting in a way that suggested to me it’s the only way he puts food on the table.

  • Nea

    There’s something that’s been digging at me for a couple days now – the phrasing that suggests everyone else “giggled” only because “Big Poppa” laughed.

    As if they’d been trained to reflect his moods… or else.

  • Nea

    You’re not the only one thinking that they waited in terror and then relief. Although I’m sure Pearl makes a big deal of laughing as long as he can laugh *at* someone — his first go-to, when accused of accessory to manslaughter, was to make a gigantic deal of telling his critics how he howled with laughter at them. Pretty inappropriate, considering the context.

    As for the dumpster… $5 says that family has done a lot of dumpster diving.