Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Ways to Change Negative Feelings?

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Ways to Change Negative Feelings? December 30, 2015

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always  all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

On to today’s question:

Ways to change negative feelings?

I withdraw and feel bitter/jealous very quickly if I perceive a slight, disloyalty, etc from one of my friends…. I begin to doubt if they really want to be friends with me, or value my friendship at all- and it makes it a huge struggle to just act normal and not “cool” towards friends(even close friends.) I have dealt with those feelings so much and caused myself a LOT of problems. (I think this is a dreamer gal fault!) So, how can I change those feelings before they damage my friendships(or my sanity?)

The only answer this child was given is to be more humble and told that overweening ego makes us take offense at others. What is a better more realistic answer?

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