by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles – 10 Reasons Christian Couples Should NOT See Marriage Counselors as always linked through Do Not Link for your safety and the admin’s sanity.
Editor’s note: We’re continuing down Larry Solomon’s countdown of irrational toxic reasons why marriage counseling is not needed. Today it’s all about the man being God and deciding every thing.
“2. One partner dominating the relationship so that the needs of the other are not met.”
Ok let’s be honest – they are prettying much targeting men with this “dominating the relationship” comment.
But first what does “dominate” mean?
These are some definitions of “dominate” as given by Webster’s online dictionary:
“rule or control”
“to exert the supreme determining or guiding influence on”
“to have or exert mastery, control, or preeminence”
“to occupy a more elevated or superior position”
Did we not just see in the Scriptures that the husband is the wife’s head and she is to regard him as her master in all things? Is the husband not to occupy the superior position in marriage if he is to follow God’s design and model for marriage?
So a man “dominating” this marriage in this regard is not only not wrong, but it commanded by God.
But if by dominating that means he is selfish and cares nothing about meeting his wife’s needs that God has commanded him to do then this is indeed a problem.
God defines what a wife’s needs are and how a husband must meet them. He must provide food, clothing, shelter and sex to his wife. He must know her (talk to her and spend time with her) and honor her position as his wife. But how he goes about these tasks is at HIS discretion. It is not the place of the wife to seek out a marriage counselor for her husband’s failures in these types of things.
“3. Inability to compromise.”
What compromise? The husband is to be the decider and the wife is to be the follower. A husband is to hear his wife’s concerns about various issues but ultimately the decisions are his to make whether it be in what church they attend, financial areas, what they teach their children regarding morality and the disciplining of the children and other areas of their marriage.
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