Quoting Quiverfull: Beat All That Foolishness Out?

Quoting Quiverfull: Beat All That Foolishness Out? October 11, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy – Unbinding Foolishness

Editor’s note: This bit has it all, beating children if they act in ways you consider foolish, fat shaming, and hurting your child on purpose to make them stop ‘showing off’. In other words any time your child acts age-appropriately normal or human you should be them while saying ‘I will show you what hurt feels like.’ Does that not just reek with the love and mercy of Christ?


It is so much easier to check foolish behavior while the child is yet young. If you catch him acting silly or irresponsible, then rebuke and spank as needed to produce sobriety. When you see him do a dumb thing and you know he knows better (or at least should know better,) communicate the seriousness of your concern with a spanking.

If your child risks life or limb in a foolish stunt, as I saw my own sons do when they were little, follow their daddy’s example. I have seen Mike say to them, “OK, you want to risk getting hurt, I will show you what hurt feels like.” And then he spanked them soundly. Next time they thought twice before showing off in a dangerous manner.

If you are visiting in a home and your child goes through the drawers or cabinets, communicate with a switch that it is not an acceptable practice. If your five-year-old spills a bag of nuts out on the car seat when she could have sealed the bag shut, let your rebuke be accompanied by a couple swift swats with the rod of your choice. Good habits are made, not born. If your children gorge on junk, even to the point of stealing food and hiding, know this: it is better to set them free from bad habits now than for them to struggle all their lives with being overweight and sickly. A few licks will remind them that overeating hurts.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • RetroPam

    I wish there was a way to beat all the evil out of these people, but the effect of beating is to beat more evil in.

  • Storm

    I’m no psychologist, but if you beat your kids for overeating or eating junk food, I tend to think that would encourage them to hide the food better, and lead to binging behavior later on in life.

    You’re the parent. If they’re eating junk food, stop them. You have control over what they eat. Use it. Educate them about healthy eating habits. Make an effort to find healthy foods they do like. Give them plenty of opportunities to exercise, and make sure they know the occasional treat will not cause them harm.

  • AuntKaylea

    If your child spills something in the car seat?!?!?!

    I simply do not have words.

  • Anonyme

    Damn kids stealing food. Don’t they understand that cat food and cabbage are enough?

    (even writing that sentence satirically made me feel gross.)

  • KarenH

    If your kids are eating junk food, stop buying junk food.

  • Nightshade

    Right. You don’t want the kids to grow up to throw trash all over because the bag broke when they were showing off. You know, like Daddy does.

  • Mel

    Adding to your excellent observation, I suspect that CP/QF families have higher levels of disordered eating on both ends of the spectrum than the average US family.

    Lots of CP families advocate abuse and advocate living on a very slim nutrition budget. That’s a classic combination that leads to binge eating, hoarding or learning that being hungry is a sign of weakness.

    Plus, Debi acts like being overweight is the end of the world. It is not.

  • Nea

    What hell it is to have been a Pearl child. The beatings only seem to stop long enough to sneer at children being bullied or force nasty non-medicines down children who are hurt.

    I will go to my grave wondering how often the dyslexic girl was beaten for being dyslexic. Mikey has said that they beat the bipolar out of another girl.

  • Nea

    The way it’s phrased, I wonder if they were shoplifting junk food.

  • BCH

    If anyone needs a beating, its the Pearls.

    These two make me sick.

  • Rachel

    Kids are clumsy–their reflexes and motor control are still developing, and their prefrontal cortex won’t be finished developing until they are in their 20s. Beating a child for spills is just punishing them for their biology, not to mention a GREAT way to give the kid anxiety.

  • Jennny

    I don’t know much about the psychology involved, but aren’t eating disorders caused by anxiety and stress – anxiety in this case about getting beaten for an innocent minor infringement of the endless rules? Also, if the child’s diet is of the catfood and cabbage variety, her body is craving nutrition subconsciously and she’s desperate to fill that need. I heard a Polish man in his 60s say he still remembers the starvation of his early years. His family went to the USA when he was 10 and he’s had sufficient food ever since….but that traumatising memory of early hunger lingers and he needs his food cupboard to be full at all times. He said that with tears in his eyes.

  • megaforte84


    No, people do not shut bags while they are still eating. At any age. She’s pretty much advocating hitting any child who had the misfortune to be eating on a road trip when THE ADULT DRIVER missed dodging a pothole.

    Also, press-to-seal bags can seal wrong when you’re young, don’t have a decade of experience with the things, and are still working out fine motor control. Their family doesn’t seem to be the sort to spend the extra few pennies a bag for the kind with the slider that aren’t problematic that way, so chances are they’ve hit a kid for not closing a bag who had made an age-appropriate attempt at it.

  • megaforte84

    It’s at kid eye- and grab-level, it’s in the store right where parents are least likely to pay attention to a child not trying to get their attention, it’s high value if the thing that matters is pure calorie density… checkout candy is pretty close to being an irresistible temptation for a child who is never allowed to not be at least slightly hungry.

  • megaforte84

    Not even just motor control – the kid can’t see over the dashboard yet. One unexpected pothole or speed bump could spill an open snack.

  • jennabobenna

    Recently, I was at my parents’ house and my mom was cooking and giving my niece and brother snacks (I only mention all three of those things because I can’t for the life of me remember what exactly we were struggling with) and she spent a fruitless minute or two trying to reseal some package or another before handing it to me. When I finally got the darn thing sealed, I realized the problem was that the edges didn’t line up quite right so you had to basically pull one side higher than the other THEN press them together to seal.

    TL;DR basically, even adults struggle with press-and-seal ziploc-style bags and no child should be punished for spilling things accidentally.

  • jennabobenna

    People who lack control over their lives (like women and girls in CP/QF families) have a tendency toward disordered eating because it feels like food is the only thing over which they can exercise control.

    Also, there is a deeply human tendency to overcompensate for previous deprivation. It’s one of the hardest problems to address with poverty. When you spend a lot of time living in the now because you can’t afford to think ahead, those habits are going to die hard, whether it’s always keeping enough food to feed an army because you’re afraid of running out or spending when you should be saving because you don’t know how to imagine the future, much less plan for it.

  • pinkie

    It’s like they think children automatically know better than to…act like children.

  • B.E. Miller

    Well, junk food would be easy to shoplift, and hide in a pocket.

    Plus if the family is subsisting on cat food and cabbage, the kid may be stealing because they are hungry.