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<\/a>by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife \u2013 Train, Train, Train Your Children<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\nEditor\u2019s note: This is in response to a reader writing to complain about her child she calls \u2018high strung\u2019 and \u2018very dramatic\u2019. She tells a story of the child spilling water on her clothing and oh so selfishly demanding to change clothing right then. Sounds reasonable to me. Wet clothing are uncomfortable and sometimes chafing. Would not an adult go change their clothing if it was uncomfortable wet? I know she says it was a \u2018tiny\u2019 amount of water, but she never says how \u2018tiny\u2019 that is. But being inflexible and treating reasonable requests as spoiled behavior is it really much farther to the rod both the Alexanders and the Pearls promote?<\/em><\/p>\n You see the flaw, go after it by talking, reasoning, and taking the appropriate action to help them to get over it. For instance, if she has water on her clothes, I would make her to continue to wear the clothes and behave properly. After a few minutes, take a hair dryer to dry it and talk to her about how that wasn\u2019t so hard. \u201cWhy do <\/em>(sic \u2013 missing word) have to overreact when there is a simple solution?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n Don\u2019t let her make a big deal about anything that isn\u2019t a big deal without a strong, level-headed response of working through it and speaking truth to her. But most importantly, I would follow up with her three times that day, the next day, and the day after to talk to her about that incident and how it really wasn\u2019t something to get upset about, was it?<\/p>\n If you have a child who refuses to acknowledge an adult\/friend that is with you when they say \u201cHi\u201d to your child (because the child thinks she is shy), teach your child to say \u201cHi\u201d right back in a warm and friendly way and answer any questions the adult asks them. Anything you see in your child that is a bad habit, bad behavior, or anything that is not good, train them consistently until they behave kindly and properly. In doing this, you will make their life as an adult much better and this is what parents are called to do with their children.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ \u2013 we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let\u2019s keep it respectful \u2013 but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.<\/p>\n Awful Marriage? Submit Harder!?<\/a><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Stay in touch! Like No Longer Quivering on Facebook:<\/em><\/p>\n No Longer Quivering<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n If this is your first time visiting NLQ please read our Welcome page<\/a> and our Comment Policy<\/a>!<\/strong><\/p>\n Copyright notice: If you use any content from NLQ, including any of our research or Quoting Quiverfull quotes, please give us credit and a link back to this site. All original content is owned by No Longer Quivering and Patheos.com<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Read our hate mail at Jerks 4 Jesus<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n Contact NLQ at SuzanneNLQ@gmail.com<\/strong><\/p>\n![\"more\"](\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/188\/2017\/01\/more-1.jpg\")
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Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement<\/a> by Kathryn Joyce<\/strong><\/h4>\n
13:24 \u2013 A Story of Faith and Obsession<\/a> by M Dolon Hickmon<\/strong><\/h4>\n