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<\/a>For well over a year we\u2019ve been running a second Answering \u2018Preparing To Be A Help Meet\u2019 on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we\u2019ve run through many of the questions on their site it\u2019s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give.<\/p>\nQuestion and answer here:<\/a><\/p>\n First the question<\/p>\n How can I instill a sense of self-worth in my verbally abused child?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n Now the answer \u2013 Notice that the question says nothing about a verbally abusive father, but that is where Mr. Pearl immediately goes:<\/p>\n Many children live with terribly abusive fathers who constantly tell them they\u00a0are no\u00a0good but the children are aware they are greatly needed to help in the household, are good helping with the younger children, help with the neighborhood children, or grandparents, etc, etc, etc. No matter how bad the dad\u2019s screaming insults are, they bounce off the child who knows better. Sure, it is an ugly situation, but it is a recoverable situation.<\/p>\n When mothers respond to a child with broken pity at how cruel the daddy\u2019s insults are then there can be really scarring damage. This is of course a natural response but none the less damaging. It is time to stop pointing the finger and stop talking about forgiveness\u2014 as long as you focus on their hurt feelings, or trying to resolve their hurt, you will be adding to their damage. It is amazing but someday they will actually blame YOU not their dad. It would shock you to read our mail. It is crazy how life works out.<\/p>\n It is time to get your daughter off to the old folks home to volunteer to read to the old ladies or push wheelchair folks outside or sing to some old man as he dozes. She could get a job at a child care center or any place where\u00a0she can see that she is a true helper. She needs to see results in other peoples\u2019 lives.<\/p>\n Random Questioning The Pearls<\/a><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Stay in touch! Like No Longer Quivering on Facebook:<\/em><\/p>\n No Longer Quivering<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n If this is your first time visiting NLQ please read our Welcome page<\/a> and our Comment Policy<\/a>!<\/strong><\/p>\n Copyright notice: If you use any content from NLQ, including any of our research or Quoting Quiverfull quotes, please give us credit and a link back to this site. All original content is owned by No Longer Quivering and Patheos.com<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Read our hate mail at Jerks 4 Jesus<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n Check out today\u2019s NLQ News at NLQ Newspaper<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n Contact NLQ at SuzanneNLQ@gmail.com<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/a>Last week\u2019s Questioning The Pearls<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n
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NLQ Recommended Reading \u2026<\/strong><\/h1>\n
Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement<\/a> by Kathryn Joyce<\/strong><\/h4>\n
13:24 \u2013 A Story of Faith and Obsession<\/a> by M Dolon Hickmon<\/strong><\/h4>\n