{"id":40892,"date":"2017-03-26T06:00:02","date_gmt":"2017-03-26T10:00:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/nolongerquivering\/?p=40892"},"modified":"2017-03-25T11:48:42","modified_gmt":"2017-03-25T15:48:42","slug":"questioning-pearls-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/nolongerquivering\/2017\/03\/questioning-pearls-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Questioning the Pearls: How to Deal With My Pornography Addiction?"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/188\/2017\/03\/quotingquiverfull-2.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-40893\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-40893\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/188\/2017\/03\/quotingquiverfull-2-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"quotingquiverfull\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\"><\/a>For well over a year we\u2019ve been running a second Answering \u2018Preparing To Be A Help Meet\u2019 on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we\u2019ve run through many of the questions on their site it\u2019s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Read the question and answer fully <a href=\"http:\/\/nogreaterjoy.org\/articles\/more-of-sodom\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">here.<\/a><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Dear Michael,<br>\nI am a husband and a stepfather of a three-year-old. I\u2019m hooked on pornography. I sometimes think I can\u2019t make it without it.<\/p>\n<p>I read your pamphlet <em>Pornography, Road To Hell<\/em>, and it fit me. I\u2019m 29 and I need someone to talk to. I need lot\u2019s of prayers. I want to stop this bondage I am in. I could use some help. God bless your website.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>And Michael\u2019s answer:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u00a0I said you don\u2019t need to talk to anyone, because no one can help you. You don\u2019t have an emotional problem that you need to \u201cwork through.\u201d You don\u2019t need affirmation or understanding. Yours is not a failure of information. You are a sinner, living after the flesh, and you are dead in trespasses and sins. No counselor can help you deal with your sin.<br>\nI said you don\u2019t need help because no one can help you decide what you value. If you love the flesh and do not fear God, if you are not afraid of hell, if you do not value your marriage and your self-respect, if you choose to have the worldview of a baboon\u2014to eat, sleep, and play with yourself\u2014no one can help you except to assure you of the misery you will experience in this life and of damnation in the next.<\/p>\n<p>I said you don\u2019t need prayer, because God does not help sinners quit their sin. God commands the sinner to repent, and then God places his Spirit inside of believers, and by that Spirit the children of God are all overcomers. Those who are not overcomers are overcome of sin and will continue to be enslaved unless they become truly born again.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Not a lot of mercy there, or decent advice.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/188\/2017\/03\/more-2.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-40894\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-40894\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/188\/2017\/03\/more-2.jpg\" alt=\"more\" width=\"35\" height=\"46\"><\/a><em>Last week\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/nolongerquivering\/2017\/03\/questioning-the-pearls-babbling-in-the-night\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\">Questioning<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Random <a href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/nolongerquivering\/2017\/01\/questioning-pearls-spank-happy\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\">Questioning<\/a><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<hr>\n<p><em>Stay in touch! 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