{"id":57452,"date":"2020-10-14T16:06:40","date_gmt":"2020-10-14T20:06:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/nolongerquivering\/?p=57452"},"modified":"2022-03-01T17:14:27","modified_gmt":"2022-03-01T21:14:27","slug":"this-is-what-self-care-looks-like","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/nolongerquivering\/2020\/10\/this-is-what-self-care-looks-like\/","title":{"rendered":"This is What Self Care Looks Like"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

<\/iframe><\/p>\nOne of the few constants of life is change. Today I made the decision to make a big life change. It\u2019s one I\u2019ve been contemplating for quite a long time, and I\u2019m doing it for my own self care.<\/p>\nMy health hasn\u2019t been great for a long time, since last January pre pandemic when I found myself now suddenly allergic to the chemicals used in our swimming pool here. My MCAS has been almost unbearable since then. Add in a diagnosis of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mayoclinic.org\/diseases-conditions\/menieres-disease\/symptoms-causes\/syc-20374910\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Meniere\u2019s disease<\/a> yesterday and it is obvious what I need to do for me, for my own self care. On days when it\u2019s bad I have a hard time sitting up to write here.<\/p>\nWe talk a lot here at NLQ about self care, about knowing where our boundaries are, and putting ourselves and our needs first. But most of us struggle to do just that. I know I have, I do it imperfectly and I\u2019ve hung on longer that I likely should. I\u2019ve been here ten years now, two thirds of the time I spent in my old cult church.<\/p>\nAdd in that in the past 8 weeks or so the rhetoric from those who oppose NLQ has gotten insane. I\u2019ve received missives from pastor Steven Anderson\u2019s supporters telling me they were coming to Costa Rica to forcibly hold me down and shave my head. They are just the tip of the nasty rotten iceberg going on from others. Lately I have not even had time to post anyone much at Jerks4Jesus either. It\u2019s increasingly taken up large portions of time dealing with blocking, deleted, banning and everything else that goes along with threats. It\u2019s no way to live.<\/p>\nTo cut to the chase I am ending my time at Patheos writing daily at No Longer Quivering. I\u2019ve suggested a few people to step into my shoes, so the column itself may continue.<\/p>\nYou\u2019ll see me pop up at friend\u2019s sites. In fact I owe <a href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/tippling\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\">Jonathan Pierce of A Tippling Philosopher<\/a> a piece on visions in the Charismatic churches. Plus I still have my book deal. I\u2019ll now have time and motivation to actually finish four books and start publishing.<\/p>\nThe hardest part is that I am going to miss each and everyone one of you I\u2019ve been in contact with during this crazy ride. I love you guys, some of the best and smartest folks I\u2019ve had the pleasure of getting to know!<\/p>\nI also want to thank Patheos and BN Media for giving me a virtual soap box. They\u2019ve always been so helpful and supportive. I wish them continued success.<\/p>\nOver the next couple of weeks I\u2019m going to wind up my two book reviews. One for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/nolongerquivering\/2020\/10\/ride-sally-ride-chapter-3-lets-all-mennonite-bash\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\">Doug Wilson\u2019s book \u201cRide Sally Ride\u201d<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/nolongerquivering\/2020\/10\/part-2-serenas-non-serenity-judgmental-envy-pity-party\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\">Lisa Moravek\u2019s \u201cSerena\u2019s Serenity\u201d<\/a><\/p>\nLooking forward to time spent painting again.<\/p>\nI\u2019ll be around. Thank you again for taking this journey with me navigating processing profound religious trauma.<\/p>\n~~~~~~~~~<\/p>\nStay in touch! 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