{"id":300,"date":"2016-02-24T06:00:13","date_gmt":"2016-02-24T10:00:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/nonprofitentrepreneur\/?p=300"},"modified":"2016-03-01T17:12:03","modified_gmt":"2016-03-01T21:12:03","slug":"church-leaders-untie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/nonprofitentrepreneur\/2016\/02\/church-leaders-untie\/","title":{"rendered":"Church Leaders Untie!"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><div>No, that\u2019s not a typo. We can\u2019t unite until we untie ourselves. We are so highly bound in our leadership roles and responsibilities that we really can\u2019t lead.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-301\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/600\/2016\/02\/Untie-1024x958.jpg\" alt=\"Untie\" width=\"526\" height=\"492\"><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Here are some ways that I\u2019ve observed leaders (including myself) being bound:<\/div>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Insecurity<\/b>\u00a0\u2013 Our self-doubt limits God\u2019s work within and through us. Limiting ourselves limits God. Doubting ourselves doubts God. Minimizing our self-worth minimizes God. Humility and insecurity are worlds apart.<\/li>\n<li><b>Arrogance<\/b>\u00a0\u2013 We are so wrapped up in ourselves that there\u2019s no room for others. There\u2019s no space to take in comments and feedback. There\u2019s mostly talking and no active listening. An arrogant leader is a closed leader.<\/li>\n<li><b>Ignorance<\/b>\u00a0\u2013 Assuming leadership and assuming knowledge is the plague of ministry. There\u2019s no connection between interpreting scripture and leadership. One is teaching, while the other is influencing.<\/li>\n<li><b>Triangling<\/b> \u2013 Creating tension in the triangles in personal relationships serves only the person creating the tension. Lay leaders specialize in creating anxiety in triangles in relationships, which not only binds the leaders, but binds the one triangling, creating unintended consequences.<\/li>\n<li><b>Silence<\/b>\u00a0\u2013 This form of emotional cut-off ties up everyone in the culture. There\u2019s no relationship and no communication.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>We can\u2019t untie the culture until we untie ourselves.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Here\u2019s a personal inventory for the church leader (by the way, I regard everyone in the culture as a leader at some level):<\/div>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Study Leadership<\/b>\u00a0\u2013 Choose a style of leadership that empowers the culture. The style I champion is Transformational Leadership. It\u2019s a culture of high-functioning leaders lead by a high-functioning leader. Share the knowledge and set up study groups. Leaders are fundamentally people of influence who get to choose how they influence others. Unfortunately, many choose to influence others negatively.<\/li>\n<li><b>Communicate<\/b> \u2013 Communication has its foundation in relationship and not in data. We share data that people don\u2019t care about because we haven\u2019t built a relationship with them. People who listen find that others listen better.<\/li>\n<li><b>Confront<\/b>\u00a0\u2013 The word confront has developed a negative connotation in common use today. The word technically means, \u201cWith your front.\u201d So, to confront is not aggressive\u2026rather, it is assertive. After all, Paul encouraged us to \u201cSpeak the Truth in Love.\u201d Right! Get over being nice. Be kind instead by being honest. Move toward conflict and do not ignore it.<\/li>\n<li><b>Accept Yourself<\/b>\u00a0\u2013 As the old saying goes, \u201cI\u2019m not perfect, but parts of me are excellent.\u201d I go with this one.<\/li>\n<li><b>Be Humble<\/b>\u00a0\u2013 Being humble does not mean minimizing one\u2019s self. Being humble is the opposite of being arrogant. Listening is so close to loving, it\u2019s hard to tell the difference. Leadership is not about the leader\u2026it\u2019s about the vision. By the way, God didn\u2019t give a vision to a committee.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div>Leading is trusting. Trust yourself. Trust God. Trust human nature. Trust history. Trust theology.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Without trust, we are bound. Untie yourself by trusting.<\/div>\n<div>\n<div>\n<h4><b><i>Hugh Ballou<br>\n<\/i><\/b><strong><em>The Transformational Leadership Strategist\u00a0<sup>TM<br>\n<\/sup><\/em><sup>Read about me on\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.forbes.com\/sites\/cherylsnappconner\/2013\/12\/17\/what-a-music-conductor-knows-about-leadership-hugh-ballou\/#2715e4857a0b4588799135c8\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Forbes<\/a><\/sup><\/strong><\/h4>\n<div><b>(c)\u00a02016 Hugh Ballou. 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