{"id":2112,"date":"2013-02-25T08:00:51","date_gmt":"2013-02-25T16:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/paganfamilies\/?p=2112"},"modified":"2013-02-24T20:46:49","modified_gmt":"2013-02-25T04:46:49","slug":"support-during-miscarriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/paganfamilies\/2013\/02\/support-during-miscarriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Support during miscarriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p>Whenever I\u2019ve <a href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/paganfamilies\/2012\/11\/there-is-a-crack-in-everything\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\">written here or on Facebook about pregnancy loss<\/a>, I\u2019ve heard a clear request for more support for Pagans experiencing loss, specifically support that isn\u2019t overwhelmingly Christian in language and ideas. I think <a href=\"http:\/\/theamethystnetwork.org\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Amethyst Network<\/a> is one organization that can help. Their mission is to provide doula support and \u201cto break the social taboo surrounding talking about miscarriage, and to support, advocate, educate, comfort, and share our stories of loss, grief, and hope.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I find it promising that they have Paganism on their <a href=\"http:\/\/theamethystnetwork.org\/the-spiritual-journey\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Spiritual Journey<\/a> page, even though they don\u2019t have anything to share about Paganism yet (they\u2019re a pretty new organization so most of these sections are still blank).<\/p>\n<p>So I decided to work on getting listed with The Amethyst Network as a loss doula, via their Ruby Path for people who already have doula training (did you know I\u2019ve trained as a birth doula and an abortion doula?). My first step was reading <em>After Miscarriage<\/em>, which is a book full of useful information especially for people who have endured multiple miscarriages and want answers.<\/p>\n<p>Today I want to share some of the ideas the book offers for ritualizing a loss or memorializing the baby. It might feel right to:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Name the baby<\/li>\n<li>Get a special piece of jewelry, perhaps with the baby\u2019s birthstone<\/li>\n<li>Plant a tree or other plant (trees are a popular idea, but consider what kind of gardener you are and how you\u2019ll feel if your plant doesn\u2019t thrive)<\/li>\n<li>Write a poem or a prayer or the story of your pregnancy<\/li>\n<li>Envision your baby as a person<\/li>\n<li>Donate to a charity, especially one that helps mothers or babies<\/li>\n<li>Get a tattoo<\/li>\n<li>Release balloons<\/li>\n<li>Light a candle<\/li>\n<li>Name a star<\/li>\n<li>Keep ultrasound pictures somewhere special<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Or maybe none of these feels right. In many cases memorializing the baby won\u2019t make sense and that\u2019s ok too.<\/p>\n<p>If you like what The Amethyst Network is doing, consider donating to the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.indiegogo.com\/projects\/254957\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Indigogo fundraiser<\/a> campaign they\u2019re running for the next week. With this kind of work, a little bit of money can go a long way.<\/p>\n<p>PS. Maybe you already realize that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/paganfamilies\/2013\/02\/rituals-to-honor-miscarriage\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\">our own Molly is a founding member<\/a> of The Amethyst Network, but she doesn\u2019t know I\u2019m writing this.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/309\/2013\/02\/20130224-144952.jpg\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/309\/2013\/02\/20130224-144952.jpg\" alt=\"20130224-144952.jpg\"><\/a><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Today I want to share some of the ideas the book offers for ritualizing a loss or memorializing the baby. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1289,"featured_media":2121,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[324,323,188,32,33,219],"class_list":["post-2112","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-pregnancy","tag-after-miscarriage","tag-amethyst-network","tag-miscarriage","tag-pagan","tag-paganism","tag-pregnancy-loss"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.1 - 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