Share what it\u2019s like to live on Cauldron Farm and the people you live there with.<\/strong><\/p>\nI currently live with my egalitarian wife Bella of 22 years, my slaveboy Joshua whom I\u2019ve had for 12 years, and my sub boy Brandon who\u2019s only been around for 2 years. All four of us are transgendered \u2013 I\u2019m an FTM intersexual, the boys are FTM transsexuals, and my wife is a MTF transsexual. We all also struggle with various disabilities, so our house motto is \u201cWe are patient with one another.\u201d We have to be. Our poly family has other outliers as well \u2013 Bella has a boyfriend with whom she shares a love of bondage, and I have a part-time sub who is married to her wife, both of whom plan to move to the farm eventually.<\/p>\n
We have sheep, goats, chickens, and a vegetable and herb garden, but we\u2019re primarily a homestead, not a commercial farm. While the boys do answer to me, and do a lot of work around here, it\u2019s not like a fantasy BDSM Farm or anything. In fact, the work \u2013 writing, publishing, traveling, teaching, taking care of animals, activist work, shamanic work, church work \u2013 often gets in the way of kinky fun. We have to try hard to find ways and times to fit it in. So not really all that sexy, I\u2019m afraid.<\/p>\n
\nWhat is your opinion and what you\u2019ve heard from others in your community about Fifty Shades of Gray?<\/strong><\/p>\nEveryone seems to agree that it is a terribly written book. Many people are upset about how it seems to associate BDSM with being screwed up by childhood abuse (which is not correlated by the studies that have been done). There are also complaints about how the dominant character stalks the potential submissive (who is an ignorant virgin with no experience in judging his behavior and demands), and pressures her with wealth. For that matter, the fantasy of the dominant being a 27-year-old CEO with amassed wealth who never seems to spend much time at work \u2026 that\u2019s drawn some sneers. Basically, the complaints seem to center around the book being little more than a Harlequin romance with a bit of kink, about which the author repeatedly expresses her own ambivalence.<\/p>\n
However, one friend who runs a sex store says that the book has one redeeming feature \u2013 it\u2019s a \u201cgateway drug\u201d. It has brought people to her store who would not otherwise have gone, and they have acquired real information there to counteract the nonsense. So perhaps it\u2019s good for something. But imagine if we had a best-seller like that which actually had a non-fantastical plot and described BDSM in realistic terms? Someone ought to write that, hey?<\/p>\n
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