{"id":1808,"date":"2013-04-20T11:15:26","date_gmt":"2013-04-20T17:15:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/paperbacktheology\/?p=1808"},"modified":"2013-04-20T11:15:26","modified_gmt":"2013-04-20T17:15:26","slug":"great-kids-have-parents-who-do-this-well","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/paperbacktheology\/2013\/04\/great-kids-have-parents-who-do-this-well.html","title":{"rendered":"Great Kids Have Parents Who Do This Well…"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

While I\u2019m not sure great is a category into which we should be putting kids, I get Donald Miller\u2019s point. He wrote a really interesting blog post<\/a> this week & it\u2019s been helping me as I approach my kids. He wrote:<\/p>\n

Secretly (until now),\u00a0I\u2019ve\u00a0noticed a common theme amongst well-adjusted kids. The theme seems to be this:\u00a0Great kids come from families in which parents are real about their shortcomings. They come from families who live and believe in grace.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve \u00a0also noticed the opposite. Many of my friends\u00a0who\u2019ve\u00a0confessed to me\u00a0they\u2019ve\u00a0had problems in life come from families in which parents (and mostly the Dad, honestly) have a hard time admitting they\u2019re wrong. Often they come from religious families in which the parents felt they had to play a role model of perfection.Of course, there are many reasons kids struggle in life. But truthfully I\u2019m not talking about kids. I\u2019m talking about adults. People in their thirties and forties who come from grace-oriented families with parents who do not control with guilt and shame do better.<\/p>\n

Well-adjusted people come from families who had parents who were honest about their mistakes and shortcomings, parents who were even humbly apologetic. Imagine having a dad who\u2019d be willing to say something like, \u201cYou know, you get your temper from me. It\u2019s one of the terrible things\u00a0I\u2019ve\u00a0handed you. I\u2019m so sorry about that. Here\u2019s how\u00a0I\u2019ve\u00a0learned to handle it. Let me know if you need help. I love you so much. Would hate for you to have to feel any pain on account of me.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

This is huge. I need to continue to develop the ability to just admit my wrongs, admit my faults, to catch myself in mid-stride in being a dumb-ass \u2013 a far to prevalent theme in my life \u2013 and just admit my own failure. I\u2019m thankful that loving a child can call out the best in us. The stakes are really high.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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