I confess that I\u2019ve begun hitting snooze too often on my 5:30am wake up. I started this schedule in mid-March and until now I have successfully limited myself to one snooze, if any. Last week of school, though\u2026 not good. I think I\u2019m at that point in forming a new habit where the novelty is gone, & I\u2019ve begun to take for granted all the benefits of an early wakeup (even though there are so many). It\u2019s a dangerous time in which the new habit can easily fall away. If I\u2019m going to stick with it, I think it might take some serious cognitive restructuring\u2013a new Pavlovian response to the sound of my alarm. Anyone want to take bets on whether or not I can do it?<\/p>\n
I confess that my kids have gone to spend the week with the grandparents. Kristin and I spent our first free day working in the yard, going to a movie (Chef\u2013it was a total feel good film), and binge watching Season 2 of The Vikings. We are almost done.<\/p>\n
I confess that I am steadily making progress in fighting back the chaos threatening to overtake my yard and garage. Yesterday\u2019s installment was a serious battle with an overgrown boxwood hedge. I\u2019ve been ignoring these bushes for about two years & they have been enjoying their freedom. Since the hedge is situated just below the deck on the back of our house, trimming & cleaning out underneath it also provided me with a snapshot of what our boys think is acceptable to chuck over the side of the deck. Clearly we\u2019ve got some instruction to do there. Next up is another full pickup load of mulch and some weed control.<\/p>\n
I confess that I\u2019m listening to the lectures from one of the \u201cGreat Courses\u201d called \u201cAnalysis and Critique: How to Engage and Write About Anything.\u201d I have no formal training as a writer, so I\u2019m always a little suspicious of my own work. I\u2019m learning that I instinctively do a few things right: I give a lot of weight to the way writing sounds poetically. I love good words & constantly attempt to expand my vocabulary. \u00a0I read a lot, and try to read good writers. I do a ton of revisions on my projects. I write every day. I return to things I\u2019ve already written & published in order to reread them with a critical eye and the benefit of some emotional distance. I Try to respect the rules of grammar, even as I am breaking them. I am constantly working with editors who rip my writing to shreds & force me to grow. In that sense this course has been encouraging. However, the course is also challenging me, teaching me that I make a lot of rookie mistakes. I\u2019m learning that I have a lot of work to do in terms of my technical writing skills. A few things I\u2019m doing wrong are: I do not know grammar well enough. I need to improve my basic sentence structure. I am not intentional enough about constructing an audience before I write. I have not done enough work analyzing other people\u2019s writing. I need to get better at anticipating objections to my arguments and answering them within the argument itself. Mostly, I\u2019m become more aware that I need to better understand the way I write\u2013the things I do by instinct (good or bad). Just understanding and naming what I\u2019m doing will help me to refine those skills, and then to expand\/refine them.<\/p>\n
I confess that I seem to have a category of friends with whom I am struggling. These are people with whom I am friendly, but I wouldn\u2019t say we are extremely close friends (although we may have been at some point). Usually we have interacted professionally or through school, but are not currently working together. Part of the pattern seems to be that we are involved in similar things professionally (ministry, music, writing, or parenting). My struggle is this: I have begun to notice a pattern. It seems like the only time we interact is when these folks are making some sort of semi-critical dig at me, usually disguised as humor. Personal or online interactions seem to involve an oblique critique of me or my work. They catch a misspelling and point out my mistake with a little joke. I share something about which I am excited, and they respond with a subtle diminishment. They point out that I\u2019m not the first to make an argument, or link to a place someone else said it better (sometimes in their own work). I remember sharing on Facebook how excited I was that one of my heroes was writing a blurb for one of my books. A friend asked if my hero was now a professional blurb writer, as if to say he writes so many blurbs that the one he wrote for me was really no big deal. I confess that I have begun to approach these interactions with a certain amount of dread, anticipating that our time together will really just be an opportunity to put me in my place, to point out my flaws & mistakes & shortcomings. I\u2019m sure these folks have no idea that this is bothering me, and I can\u2019t help wondering if I\u2019m bringing it all upon myself by being braggy or egocentric in some way. I\u2019m trying to be on guard for this, but we don\u2019t know what we don\u2019t know, you know? One aspect of this situation for which I am grateful is that I\u2019ve become more aware of this tendency in myself. I\u2019ve begun to notice the subtle ways in which I do the same thing, often without even realizing it, and I can catch myself before I start. I can find the place within me that is truly excited and proud of my friends, and let myself speak from that place. The upshot is that I have been reminded of how important it is to cheer people on, to encourage one another, and to avoid self-protective postures, jealousy, and scarcity\u2013and for this I am grateful.<\/p>\n
Okay friends, that\u2019s my confession for this Monday. Space for your confession has been provided in the comments section below\u2026 have at it!<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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