{"id":854,"date":"2012-09-21T09:15:40","date_gmt":"2012-09-21T15:15:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/paperbacktheology\/?p=854"},"modified":"2012-09-21T09:15:40","modified_gmt":"2012-09-21T15:15:40","slug":"what-is-it-about-forgiveness-that-ticks-people-off","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/paperbacktheology\/2012\/09\/what-is-it-about-forgiveness-that-ticks-people-off.html","title":{"rendered":"What Is It About Forgiveness That Ticks People Off?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

What Is It About Forgiveness That Ticks People Off?<\/p>\n

In the wake of the insanely tasteless \u201cInnocence of Muslims\u201d video and the similarly dishonorable outrage and violence of part of the Muslim world, I have been surprise by the response to my response. I think the movie is awful and is probably should be considered hate speech. I\u2019m embarrassed that some of my brothers in Christ have chosen to be that foolish and unwise and they should be disciplined by the body. But, I\u2019m an idiot much of the time as well, so I\u2019m inclined to forgive them.<\/p>\n

This, I have found, ticks some people off.<\/p>\n

At the same time I\u2019m watching theArab Street go absolutely off the rails. The protests, and the violence make zero sense. I do not understand how these people can call themselves good Muslims and become this enraged and violent over an idiotic and, frankly, juvenile film that should not be taken seriously. It looks like it was filmed and edited by a high school amateur. They are killing people and going crazy over the actions of a fool. Islamic reaction to the film is absolutely ridiculous and there is no excuse for it either. However, I\u2019m a ridiculous reactor to certain things. I\u2019m foolish and violent (though not physically, but my words can wound). I\u2019m inclined to want to forgive them and to try to ask people to approach them with some charity and grace while the cooler heads try to prevail.<\/p>\n

This, I have found, ticks some people off.<\/p>\n

Forgiveness is absolutely offensive to those who are highly invested in being right. Forgiveness is impossible for those whose identity is built upon 1) the need to have winners and losers, and 2) the inability to imagine losing.<\/p>\n

Just a quick heads up<\/strong>: Jesus\u2019s central teaching about the kingdom of God is that to win, you have to lose. To be first, you have to intentionally come in last. To find true life, you have to be willing to lose your life before you join the throngs of the violent & self-justified. To be forgiven, you have to forgive<\/em>. What is it about forgiveness that pisses people off? It\u2019s the gospel. And the gospel is offensive, especially to the religious.<\/p>\n

So for some Friday funny, here\u2019s a little article<\/a> on the perils of forgiveness from the Lark News:<\/p>\n

ON FORGIVINGSPREE, MAN ALIENATES FRIENDS, FAMILY<\/p>\n

LUBBOCK,Texas\u2014 Dan Bentley, 38, used to have trouble admitting he was wrong, until a sermon series convinced him that asking forgiveness was the path to personal freedom. Now he is asking forgiveness so much that he\u2019s on the verge of losing every friend he\u2019s ever made. \u201cI\u2019m cleaning the slate with everybody, no matter how difficult that proves to be,\u201d he says.<\/p>\n

Bentley recently asked a woman at work to forgive him for spending years ogling her, especially when she wore particular outfits. He was promptly hit with a sexual harassment claim and a demotion. He asked forgiveness of two high school buddies and detailed what had bothered him about their personalities. They haven\u2019t invited him fishing since. Even his mother is angry at him for confessing that for years he\u2019d seen her as overbearing, selfish and manipulating and that he needed forgiveness for \u201calways liking Dad a lot better.\u201d She promptly disinvited him to the family\u2019s Fourth of July reunion.<\/p>\n

Bentley says that though he\u2019s paid a high price for coming clean he \u201creally feels free.\u201d \u201cMy pastor was right,\u201d he says. \u201cAsking forgiveness completely changes your life.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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