Because deep down, they know that they are doing something wrong.<\/em><\/p>\n I grew up in a family that does not believe that children have rights. Children are the property of their parents, heart mind body and soul. They basically have the same rights as slaves used to in the south. These conservative homeschooling parents control every aspect of their child\u2019s life. They decide what their children are allowed to be interested in, how they will spend their time, what clothes they must wear, if and what they will be educated in, and whether or not they will be given health care. Some in the patriarchy home school movement, do not believe that they should educate their daughters beyond the\u00a08th grade, because they will be stay-at-home moms someday, and therefore have no reason to be educated.<\/p>\n I used to believe it all.\u00a0I was terrified of the government as a child. My parents told us that if people saw us outside during school hours, we would get taken away and put in foster homes where they would make us go to school. I remember crawling underneath the windows in the front of the house, because I was afraid someone outside would see me and call the police. One time a family friend knocked at the door during school hours, and my sister ran to open it. I heard the commotion from the other end of the house and ran in the kitchen screaming \u201cdon\u2019t open the door!!\u201d and when I rounded the corner and realized that the door was already open and there were no policemen waiting to take us away, I shrank away in embarrassment.<\/p>\n I remember being outside and hearing the screams of a sister being \u201cspanked\u201d for what seemed like an eternity, and besides that usual sick feeling in my stomach for what she was going through, my main worry was that since the window was open, someone might hear and call the police.<\/p>\n One time when I was babysitting my siblings, a chair got knocked over and broke the dining room window. I freaked out and yelled at all the When I actually read\u00a0the UN convention for The Rights of the Child a year ago,\u00a0I cried.<\/strong>\u00a0There were people who actually believed that children are fully human? That they have the same rights to health, happiness and opportunity that adults have?\u00a0I read in print for the first time<\/a>\u00a0the rights I want my children to have, including the rights I never had as a child.<\/p>\n People may argue that the UN rights of\u00a0the child is redundant. We know that kids need to be protected, that\u2019s obvious, right? But the USA can still use improvement. I found out later that a neighbor had heard my sister screaming that day, but they didn\u2019t call the police,\u00a0they thought it was funny<\/em>.\u00a0There are still people today who can see a broken bleeding child, and accept the parents\u2019 explanation that they were a brat and \u201cdeserved it\u201d.<\/a><\/p>\n I still have a hard time\u00a0even today, understanding the concept that children don\u2019t deserve to be hit and mistreated. I saw it with unseeing eyes every day in my home growing up. When my sister recently shared a childhood memory of \u201cdiscipline\u201d that became abuse<\/a>, I was physically shaking thinking about what had happened to her. I had a vague memories jumbling around in my\u00a0head. Is it possible that my sister had tried to confide in me when I was a teenager, and I\u2019d done nothing to help her? I don\u2019t know. Regardless of whether I knew what had happened that particular time or not, I know what my response would have been.\u00a0\u201cYou\u00a0shouldn\u2019t\u00a0have been rebellious, you should have been\u00a0obedient, you should have done what you were told and then this never would have happened to you.\u201d<\/em>\u00a0I would have said those things, because I truly believed that children deserved to be treated badly. I believed that we had no rights. I told myself that I was the problem, I was the bad one, and so were my siblings.<\/p>\n Parents are allowed wide discretion on whether or not to bring their child to the doctor or to use homeopathic remedies instead of standard medicine. When my baby brother was a year old, he got pneumonia and\u00a0was very very sick\u00a0for over a month. I remember being scared at the amount of weight he was losing, and redoubled my prayers for him since my parents did not take the baby to the Doctor. (2014 note: Even three years before this post was written when a different brother got badly burned in an accident, I respected my parents right to attempt to care for him themselves rather then get him emergency care. Because I still believed that parents ultimately had the right to decide whether or not to get medical care for their child.)<\/em> \u00a0Sometimes the denial of medical care can result in permanent disfigurement, or even death.\u00a0What if this 11 year old girl with un-diagnosed\u00a0diabetes<\/a>\u00a0in Wisconsin had known that she had a right to medical care? Maybe she could have gone for help as her health declined, instead of relying on the prayer of her Pentecostal<\/a> family as she died. Maybe someone in her family could have called 911 sooner, if they only had known what help was available, and what rights children have. But no, they trusted in the family and their interpretation of God, and the girl died.\u00a0Her story is not the only one.<\/a><\/p>\n![\"image_gallery\"](\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/246\/2014\/10\/image_gallery.jpg\")
<\/a>Several months ago,\u00a0my mom was spouting off against the government and Child Protective Services in a phone conversation, saying that they should never have a right to \u201cbreak up families.\u201d I pointed out that while some families need to be separated,\u00a0most of the time the family is just helped and educated, not split up.\u00a0I recalled a certain time in our family when I feel that Child Protective Services\u00a0would have been helpful. She acknowledged that there had been a problem, but maintained that she would have listened to a church member or neighbor if they had confronted her. I reminded her that we were not attending church at that time of our life, and that I had begged her to make the abuse stop the day it was happening and she had not listened to me. She replied that the reason she did not listen to me was because I was only a child of 10, if an adult had intervened, she would have done something. I gave up on the discussion at that point, but 2 weeks later my mom sent me some information from \u201cthe parents rights amendment\u201d. She\u2019s sent stuff like this to me before, but it brought out the frustration anew. Why are these parents so afraid of government recognizing that children have rights?<\/p>\n![\"broken-old-window\"](\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/246\/2014\/10\/broken-old-window-300x198.jpg\")
<\/a> kids that now someone would see the broken window and think that dad was a drunk who beat us, and they would call the police.<\/p>\n