{"id":22541,"date":"2014-05-22T07:31:12","date_gmt":"2014-05-22T13:31:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/publiccatholic\/?p=22541"},"modified":"2014-12-26T23:26:53","modified_gmt":"2014-12-27T06:26:53","slug":"news-flash-for-vatican-mistresses-if-he-wanted-to-marry-you-he-would","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/publiccatholic\/2014\/05\/news-flash-for-vatican-mistresses-if-he-wanted-to-marry-you-he-would\/","title":{"rendered":"News Flash for Vatican Mistresses: If He Wanted to Marry You, He Would."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

\u00a0<\/p>\n

The Vatican Mistresses, a group of 26 women who either are or want to be having sexual affairs with Catholic priests, sent a letter to Pope Francis asking him to allow their lovers to marry them.<\/p>\n

This isn\u2019t the first time a group of women who are having affairs with priests have written a pope. Pope Benedict got a similar letter.\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n

I could respond to this in quite a few ways, but I think I\u2019ll focus on the fantasy life of these women. Evidently they, along with their sisters who wrote the earlier letter, have bought the lie their boyfriends are telling them. They believe that these guys want <\/em>to marry them, and are dissuaded from doing so because \u2026 well \u2026 because they are priests who have taken some sort of vow.<\/p>\n

First of all, ladies, if these guys were all that serious about their vows, you wouldn\u2019t be writing this letter in the first place. The reason? You wouldn\u2019t be having an affair with the guy, and neither would anybody else.<\/p>\n

Second, if he wanted to marry you, he would.<\/p>\n

So far as I know, there aren\u2019t any bishops standing outside parish rectories with AK-47s, keeping your boyfriends locked inside. They can leave any time they want.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t leave because they\u2019ve got a good deal. They have all the respect and adulation that Catholics heap on their priests, the immense authority and freedom of action that is part and parcel of being a pastor, and lots of boys\u2019 nights out and camaraderie with the other priests. Their bills are paid, the health insurance is up to date and gifts and goodies from adoring parishioners rain down on them steadily.<\/p>\n

And they\u2019ve got you on the side.<\/p>\n

In the words of Dustin Hoffman\u2019s character in Little Big Man, they\u2019re not just playing Indian, they\u2019re living Indian. Or, as we say it here in Oklahoma, they\u2019ve got a bird\u2019s nest on the ground.<\/p>\n

The person whose life is truncated is you, girlfriend. The person who is paying the price for this whole affair is, well, you. You are the one who has taken herself off the dating market to languish in the shadows. Your lover is standing at the front of the church, holding the Host aloft while the choir sings Amen. He\u2019s the belle of the ball, and you are the little match girl, looking in.<\/p>\n

If he wants to marry you, he can do it. He just doesn\u2019t want to.<\/p>\n

Because he\u2019s got it pretty good as things are.<\/p>\n

So, ladies, my advice to you is to stop being stupid. Let your collared lover find himself someone else to believe him. Stop gathering at closed Facebook pages to support one another in this waste of your lives. Don\u2019t write any more letters to the Pope.<\/p>\n

Dump you boyfriend and get on with the business of looking for a man who is willing and capable of loving you back out in the sunshine, in front of the whole wide world.<\/p>\n

Stop thinking that Pope Francis is the reason you\u2019re living like this. Because Pope Francis has nothing to do with it. You\u2019re deluding yourselves ladies, and that alone is the reason for your dilemma.<\/p>\n

If he wanted to marry you, he would.<\/p>\n

From The Daily Bea<\/a>st:<\/p>\n

A group of women claiming to be the secret paramours of priests have written to Pope Francis to urge him to roll back the church\u2019s celibacy requirements.<\/p>\n

A popular pontiff, Pope Francis receives hundreds of letters every day\u2014but a recent one, signed by 26 women who would like his permission to have sex with their priest-boyfriends, was undoubtedly not like most of the others.<\/p>\n

The letter, published on Vatican Insider<\/a> website on Sunday, began with a plea for the pontiff to take heart and make celibacy optional for the signatories\u2019 paramours, who happen to be priests. \u201cDear Pope Francis, we are a group of women from all over Italy (and further afield) and are writing to you to break down the wall of silence and indifference that we are faced with every day,\u201d wrote the women (who signed with their first names and a last initial). \u201cEach of us is in, was or would like to start a relationship with a priest we are in love with.\u201d Their phone numbers were also apparently made available in case the pope would like to call the women.<\/p>\n

The women, who reportedly met up on a closed Facebook group, say they represent only a \u201csmall sample\u201d of an apparently large group of secret lovers of priests. According to Vatican Insider, the letter noted, \u201ca lot has been said by those who are in favour of optional celibacy but very little is known about the devastating suffering of a woman who is deeply in love with a priest. We humbly place our suffering at your feet in the hope that something may change, not just for us, but for the good of the entire Church.\u201d<\/p>\n

The women admitted that they knew it was wrong to enter into amorous relationships with priests, and implied that, at least to some extent the priests respected their vows of chastity, but added, \u201cin most cases, despite all efforts to renounce it, one cannot manage to give up such a solid and beautiful bond. Unfortunately, this brings with it all the pain of not being able to live it fully.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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