{"id":24623,"date":"2014-10-15T12:08:41","date_gmt":"2014-10-15T18:08:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/publiccatholic\/?p=24623"},"modified":"2014-12-17T14:39:44","modified_gmt":"2014-12-17T21:39:44","slug":"6-things-i-hope-the-synod-on-the-family-does-that-it-doesnt-seem-to-be-doing-now","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/publiccatholic\/2014\/10\/6-things-i-hope-the-synod-on-the-family-does-that-it-doesnt-seem-to-be-doing-now\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Things I Hope the Synod on the Family Does That It Doesn’t Seem to be Doing Now"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

I had high hopes for the Synod on the Family.<\/p>\n

I had hope that it would find ways for the Church to support and strengthen traditional marriage, that it would address the real problems of children of divorce who grow up with half their souls amputated by the constant roiling.<\/p>\n

I had hope that it would take a look at ways to help people who are trying their best to follow Catholic teaching in a hostile world where one McJob won\u2019t support a family, so both parents end up with with two or three jobs, leaving the children to raise themselves.<\/p>\n

I had hope that the Synod would address the clanging juxtaposition of overprivileged kids in too-expensive Catholic schools staging walk-outs from their fine educations while inner city kids are forced to share textbooks and don\u2019t even feel physically safe.<\/p>\n

I had hope that the Synod would find ways to strengthen the family, not abandon and destroy it.<\/p>\n

In truth, I not only had hopes for the Synod, I had trust in it. I believed in it and in the men who were participating in it. Now, I\u2019m afraid of what they may do.<\/p>\n

Here are 6 things I wish the Synod on the Family would consider that it doesn\u2019t seem to be considering now.<\/p>\n

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1. Poverty and its deleterious effect on families.<\/strong> As I mentioned above, even here in America, poverty grinds families to bits. American children aren\u2019t forced to scavenge in garbage dumps for food. But they spend most of their lives being raised by everything and everybody except their parents.<\/p>\n

There is such a divide between the elites and the rest of this country that I honestly don\u2019t think they know or believe what their policies are doing to ordinary people. Low wages and a stagnant economy caused by exporting our industrial base has led to the need for mothers and dads to work two or three jobs apiece, just to put a roof over their kids\u2019 heads.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s no nanny or au pair for these kids. They end up raising themselves, and being raised by other kids and the second-rate schools they must attend. As soon as the law allows, they get McJobs of their own, often working long hours to help support the family. The resulting exhaustion often ends their education.<\/p>\n

Too many of them opt out altogether. Their real family, their real parents, are the gangs and the other kids. They have no moorings to make decisions, so they fall into early and promiscuous sex, babies without dads, drugs and gangs.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s in America.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure it\u2019s much worse \u2014 by powers of ten \u2014 in developing countries. After all, the reason our corporations shipped our industrial base overseas was to be in places where it could treat people any way it wanted.<\/p>\n

Divorce among the working class and lower classes in America is a plague; as is shacking up and having kids out of wedlock.<\/p>\n

It destroys families. And the destruction of families destroys lives.<\/p>\n

Perhaps the Synod should look at what it can do to help Catholics who want to have families and raise them well but are crippled by poverty that makes living out their vocation a desperate and losing fight. How can the Church support families in the face of poverty and corporatism? I wish they\u2019d look at that.<\/p>\n

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2. How the Church can actually teach its teachings to the people in the pews.<\/strong> Re-writing the Gospels to fit the times is not the correct pastoral answer. The correct pastoral answer is to take a look at why the Bishops have been such abysmal failures at teaching Church teaching.The arguments these men are having now are a direct result of their failure to teach in the past.<\/p>\n

The Church leadership has gotten soft and disengaged. It has lost its missionary fervor. Its operating ethos is build-a-church-building-then-wait-for-the-parishioners-to-come. Follow that by preaching fine homilies that are nonetheless removed from the fact that ordinary pew-sitting Catholics are out there without ammunition or support on the front lines of a cultural war.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t think that Catholic clergy really \u201cget\u201d what the Catholic laity is facing every single day. I don\u2019t believe they understand the many social martyrdoms that many devout Catholics endure.<\/p>\n

My hope is that the Synod could address this failure as it applies to the family and actually talk about how to help Catholic laity be the Light of the World that Jesus calls them to be.<\/p>\n

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3. Stop speaking in indirections and obscure language.<\/strong> I would love to see our religious leaders take the marbles out of their mouths and actually communicate in a straightforward manner. The flap over the relatio<\/a> is a case in point.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve heard comments that people are \u201cstupid\u201d for not understanding that the document is just basically minutes of the previous meetings and nothing official. But if there\u2019s one thing I\u2019ve learned in my dealings with the public, it\u2019s that if you say it, and they don\u2019t get it, it\u2019s on you to fix that. Leadership is mostly a matter of being understood.<\/p>\n

This inability to speak in simple declarative sentences may be a large part of why the bishops have failed so disastrously these past decades in their job as teachers of the faith. If I could make one reform of Catholic clergy it would be to teach them to talk to people about the faith from the heart.<\/p>\n

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4. Bring Catholic education back in line with Catholic belief, and provide it to the poor. <\/strong>Catholic education is losing its Catholic savor. It is also more and more the inaccessible privilege of the privileged. It smacks of hypocrisy to preach about \u201cthe poor\u201d while shutting the doors to a good Catholic education in the \u201cthe poor\u2019s\u201d faces.<\/p>\n

Catholic families of every social strata need the Church\u2019s help in raising their children to be Catholic. If Catholic schools fail in this mission \u2014 and many of them are demonstrably failing horribly \u2014 then what are parents to do? By the same token, if access to a Catholic education is denied to parishioners who are trapped in the McJob syndrome, that will only quicken and deepen the destruction of their children.<\/p>\n

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5. Address the plague of drug addiction that destroys our families.\u00a0<\/strong>Drug addiction destroys the personalities of the people who suffer from it, and it also destroys the homes and happiness of everyone they love. It is a plague that is filling up prisons, destroying families, leaving children damaged and too bereft to become functioning adults, and hollowing out whole societies.<\/p>\n

It leads to corruption and massive violence on a governmental scale. If the Synod wants to help families, it needs to discuss ways the Church can aid them in their anguished fight against drug addiction.<\/p>\n

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6. Talk about Jesus, not one another. <\/strong>The priesthood is not supposed to be all about the priests. From the sex abuse scandal to some of the things I\u2019m hearing from this Synod, the trouble stems, not from a lack of leadership, but a lack of followership.<\/p>\n

Many of our religious leaders seem to think that their world is the whole world and that they have no need for the humble reliance on Christ that is the mark of true Christians the world over. My hope for this Synod is that its participants will follow Christ, and not each other. My number one wish is that our religious leadership would preach Christ. <\/strong>If they would do that, everything else would follow.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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