{"id":30071,"date":"2015-07-08T08:07:03","date_gmt":"2015-07-08T14:07:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/publiccatholic\/?p=30071"},"modified":"2015-07-08T10:07:50","modified_gmt":"2015-07-08T16:07:50","slug":"what-if-we-took-a-new-look-at-the-story-of-st-maria-goretti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/publiccatholic\/2015\/07\/what-if-we-took-a-new-look-at-the-story-of-st-maria-goretti\/","title":{"rendered":"What if We Took a New Look at the Story of St Maria Goretti?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

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This is for those who lie in the field, the lake, the dump and the shallow grave. It is for the ones whose bodies will never be found, whose names will go unrecorded; for the forgotten, unidentified, unfound women who died at the hands of their attackers.\u00a0<\/em>Rebecca Hamilton<\/p>\n

I know a simple way to turn St Maria Goretti into a saint that rape victims and battered women all over the world would turn to in gratitude and adoration.<\/p>\n

Why don\u2019t we look at her story from the angle that rape is a mortal sin, that it is a sin against the humanity of the individual person who has it done to them, and that it is a sin which is so ubiquitous that it keeps half the human race in fear?<\/p>\n

How about if we approach the story of St Maria Goretti as an admonition for men to stop raping?<\/p>\n

Yes, she appeared to her would-be rapist from beyond the grave, and yes, this moved him to remorse. But the story is not that she died \u201cfor purity.\u201d The story is that he was a grown man who repeatedly tried to molest a child, then murdered her for resisting him, and she forgave him and appeared to him from heaven to save his sorry soul.<\/p>\n

We might also consider her story in light of the reality of child sexual abuse. Her murderer was 20 years old. She was 12. He had been repeatedly attempting to molest this little girl before he murdered her.<\/p>\n

I have a lot of love and tenderness toward a little girl of 12 who was murdered while fighting off her rapist. I have tremendous sympathy for a little girl who is being subjected to repeated sexual advances from her adult neighbor.<\/p>\n

What I do not see is that she is a saint because she died rather than be raped; that the salutary tale we are to take from her story is that she died \u201cdefending her purity.\u201d This is a view of little girls and women\u00a0that has led to enormous suffering for women for millennia. In some parts of the world today, rape victims are expected to commit suicide because they have lost their \u201cvirtue.\u201d<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be clear about this: The one without honor is the rapist. The one who has no purity is the rapist. If anybody deserves death because of this crime, it is the rapist.<\/p>\n

The truth is that the \u201cpurity\u201d of a human being does not reside in physical virginity. It resides in a soul that rests in Christ. A woman\u2019s \u201chonor\u201d is the same as a man\u2019s honor: It is her honesty, her loyalty and her courage.<\/p>\n

A woman\u2019s honor has everything to do with whether or not you can rely on her word, if she will be honest in her dealings with the world and if she keeps her commitments. It has nothing to do with whether or not a rapist has destroyed her hymen.<\/p>\n

Purity is a matter of the heart and soul, not the physical things that are done to a person. A\u00a0comfort woman\u00a0that the Japanese raped over and over again may very well have more honor than any of the people commenting on this blog, including me. A victim of sex trafficking may have a soul so pure that it rings like crystal when she stands before the Lord, while those who claim that she is besmirched and worthless are without honor, kindness or love.<\/p>\n

The story of Maria Goretti is a story of child sexual abuse and attempted rape that resulted in the death of a child at the hands of her attacker. The miraculous element in it comes from Maria Goretti\u2019s forgiveness of the man who did this. It is a forgiveness that reaches from beyond the grave.<\/p>\n

However, even this element can be completely turned on its head if we follow the way that St Goretti\u2019s story is currently told. Can child-murdering pedophiles be forgiven?<\/p>\n

Yes.<\/p>\n

There is no sin we can commit that is greater than God\u2019s mercy in Christ Jesus.<\/p>\n

Did Maria Goretti feel concern for her attacker that led her to come to him and seek his conversion from heaven?<\/p>\n

Yes.<\/p>\n

But that is because hell is so terrible, and because this child-murdering pedophile was so dastardly that her compassion reached out to him in love in spite of what he did to her.<\/p>\n

Maria Goretti did not die to save her murderer. She acted in love after her death to save him. Her death is not a wondrous tale of how women are supposed to value their \u201cpurity\u201d above their lives. It is a story of how a person who is one with Christ can forgive the unforgivable, just as Christ forgave from the cross.<\/p>\n

It is not a story to be used to exacerbate the guilt and shame of other little girls, and indeed, of older girls, who are sexually molested by adults when they are children, or who are forcibly raped when they are older.<\/p>\n

There is no requirement on any woman to resist her rapist to the death. Getting yourself murdered because of a misogynist notion of \u201cpurity\u201d that says that a woman\u2019s \u201chonor\u201d resides in whether or not she has had sex should never be taught as an ideal to little girls.<\/p>\n

The way that St Maria Goretti\u2019s story has been used harms rape victims. It adds to their shame and increases their misery. It can make recovery from this horrible crime impossible.<\/p>\n

I have had enough in my young life of my fellow Christians turning their backs on rape victims. I once witnessed a church that actually voted on whether or not to allow a rape victim to remain a member of the church.<\/p>\n

I have known rape victims who committed suicide over this kind of attitude toward them. I knew a woman who had been raped by 5 men who, when she encountered this kind of \u201cwhy didn\u2019t you fight harder, why were you at that concert in the first place\u201d condemnation climbed into her bathtub, put a gun to her head and pulled the trigger.<\/p>\n

I do not care \u2014 let me say that again \u2014\u00a0I do not care\u00a0<\/em>if I am the only person on this planet who speaks out against the abusive use of this saint\u2019s story to shame and blame rape victims. I will still do it.<\/p>\n

I do not care \u2014\u00a0I do not care \u2014\u00a0<\/em>if every single person reading this blog opposes what I am saying.<\/p>\n

Blaming and shaming rape victims is anti-Christ. Claims that He somehow or other regards half the people he made this way defame His holy name.<\/p>\n

These women are Christ crucified, standing right in front of you. If you don\u2019t get that, then you really are missing the whole point of Christ\u2019s passion.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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