I had my first appointment last week at my midwife\u2019s office. She was wonderful, as usual, but her new nurse\u2026I think I confused her a bit. She asked all the usual questions about my gynecological history but kept calling my miscarriages abortions and then saying \u201coh yeah\u201d when I corrected her. (In her defense, she is coming from working at a hospital and clinic where such things must be routine.) Then we had this exchange:<\/p>\n
her: \u201cHow many pregnancies?\u201d<\/p>\n
me: \u201cEight\u201d<\/p>\n
her: \u201cAnd just the two abortions?\u201d<\/p>\n
me: \u201cMiscarriages.\u201d<\/p>\n
her: \u201cYeah, losses.\u201d<\/p>\n
(pause for writing)<\/p>\n
her: \u201cAnd how many living children?\u201d<\/p>\n
me (not really thinking): \u201cSix\u201d<\/p>\n
her: \u201cSo this will be number seven?\u201d<\/p>\n
me: \u201cNo. This is number six.\u201d<\/p>\n
her: \u201cSo five living children.\u201d<\/p>\n
me: \u201cNo, six including this one.\u201d<\/p>\n
her: \u201cYeah, but five children, two losses and one pregnancy.\u201d<\/p>\n
me: \u201cNo. Two losses. Six children, one of whom is not born yet.\u201d<\/p>\n
her (getting upset with me): But we don\u2019t count that one as alive yet.<\/p>\n
me: \u201cWrite it down any way you want, but the answer is two losses and six living children. It has a heartbeat, it is alive.\u201d<\/p>\n
Exasperated look just short of an eye roll from her. I could tell that if we were anywhere else she would have lost it at this point.<\/p>\n
My sweet Computer Guy, to her: \u201cLet it go, you won\u2019t win this one.\u201d<\/p>\n
Love him! and praying for her. Hopefully my midwife\u2019s joyful attitude towards babies and life will rub off on her a bit. It was a slip of the tongue originally, but having declared my baby to be alive, I could not back down and relegate our sweet #6 to being classified as something less than alive. Growing, kicking, jumping, full of life with a rapidly beating heart\u2026.is it possible to be any more alive than this?<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I had my first appointment last week at my midwife\u2019s office. She was wonderful, as usual, but her new nurse\u2026I think I confused her a bit. She asked all the usual questions about my gynecological history but kept calling my miscarriages abortions and then saying \u201coh yeah\u201d when I corrected her. (In her defense, she […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1979,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1154","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n