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On Easter morning, she asked not to wear her new Easter dress or the darling hair bow that matched it because when \u201cI am cute the people talk to me.\u201d We made a deal, she wore the dress and I ran interference all day long. It worked for Sunday, but the truth is that people try and talk to her and touch her everywhere we go. They especially like to stroke her soft, shiny brown hair. These are probably the same people who rub the pregnant bellies of strangers, ask if I\u2019m breastfeeding, question whether or not we\u2019re planning on having more children\u2026.a friend of mine calls it the talk show phenomenon. People just don\u2019t have any concept of boundaries anymore. They think that they have a fundamental right to satisfy their own curiosity, and the feelings of others be damned.<\/p>\n

But what do you do when you\u2019re three, and really tiny, and cry and shake whenever someone tries to tell you how cute you are? They are probably very nice people, but they are much bigger, and you don\u2019t know them, and they are very scary. I have thought about this a lot.<\/p>\n

So, we made a button today. A shiny pink button that goes right in the middle of her shirt and has sparkly pink butterflies on it. It says \u201cI\u2019m very shy. PLEASE don\u2019t talk to me.\u201d I hope it works. I pray that the strangers we meet will honor her silent request instead of finding it to be an irresistible conversation starter. <\/p>\n

If you see us in the store, one half-crazed mom and my 5 little guys, please talk to me, or strike up a conversation with the other four. They will be delighted to talk to you\u2026not a stranger, but a potential friend. But please, honor a three year old\u2019s honest request and pretend that you don\u2019t see her. Please give her the gift and the comfort of letting her be invisible.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"