{"id":2,"date":"2014-08-12T21:28:00","date_gmt":"2014-08-12T21:28:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/rebeccafrech\/2014\/08\/what-i-spent-it-on.html"},"modified":"2014-08-22T15:46:54","modified_gmt":"2014-08-22T20:46:54","slug":"what-i-spent-it-on","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/rebeccafrech\/2014\/08\/what-i-spent-it-on.html","title":{"rendered":"What I Spent It On"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

Last week, I was very fortunate to have two friends give me some money to spend on something fun and frivolous. It\u2019s not the money that felt like a blessing as much as having two friends who love and care about me did. Time and again, in the midst of the spirals of tragedy in the past two years, I have been gifted to find the love and care of friends and strangers alike.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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I might have been thankful for generous friends, but I still had some money to spend\u2026so I asked you what you would spend it on. Most of you said you\u2019d spend some extra money on pampering yourselves \u2013 pedicures, massages, and new clothes seemed to be the most popular. I considered them, I really did.<\/div>\n
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But I kept thinking about my husband.<\/div>\n
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In the midst of people\u2019s generosity to me, their desire to see me rested and cared for\u2026he doesn\u2019t have a cadre of readers spoiling him and worrying about his mental health. (Maybe he should blog\u2026) So I decided to split it with him. That wasy original plan. A 50\/50 split of us splurging. It was a fun thought\u2026which made me think of fun.<\/div>\n
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He doesn\u2019t get to play. When I went to Edel, he stayed with the kids. When I made an ill-fated trip through Buffalo, Texas, he stayed with the kids. He always stays with the kids. He likes it that way. His idea of an exciting weekend includes a mandatory trip to the farmer\u2019s market to talk to the beekeepers\u2026.about bees\u2026<\/div>\n
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We\u2019re a classic case of yin and yang. That\u2019s why we work, but I wanted him to have a chance to play\u2026.so we left the kids at home and went to the water park.<\/div>\n
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We splurged on the line jumper passes (which were well worth the price), and spent 11 hours of screaming and whooping our way down one slide after another.<\/div>\n
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Halfway through the day, he was grinning the carefree grin he wore when we were dating.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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He was such a good sport about everything, that when he decided to do the slide which was a near-vertical seven story drop, I sucked up my fear of heights and went with him. That tower was high, y\u2019all, and it swayed the tiniest bit in the wind but I was determined to not have to do the walk of chicken shame back down to the bottom. Once I was up there, the only way down was on a slide\u2026.and I\u2019m no longer standing up there.<\/div>\n
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It was a day of fun and play. It was such a gift for me to be able to bless him with what I had been given, and for that I am most grateful to my friends. In caring for me, they gave me the ability to care for him.<\/div>\n
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So that\u2019s what I spent it on. A screaming, dizzying, play-filled day without my children. A day of reminding the man I married of the boy he was when I fell head over heels for him. A total splurge on nothing but a silly memory, which is sometimes the best kind of splurge after all.<\/div>\n
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Look! He\u2019s smiling!!!!<\/p><\/div>\n

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Okay, funny story from Saturday. We were taking a picture and this random kid came up and asked to be in our picture because she \u201clikes being in pictures.\u201d Her mom kept apologizing, but we let her do it, so this is us with Makayla\u2026and we don\u2019t have any clue who she is.<\/div>\n
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(I hate the way I look in this pic because I\u2019m standing weird, but I love it because he\u2019s smiling a non-picture-face smile, and\u2026Makayla\u2026who I\u2019m sure is awesome \u00a0and isn\u2019t afraid to ask for what she wants in life.)<\/p><\/div>\n

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