{"id":3952,"date":"2015-04-14T18:39:34","date_gmt":"2015-04-14T23:39:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/rebeccafrech\/?p=3952"},"modified":"2015-04-14T18:42:11","modified_gmt":"2015-04-14T23:42:11","slug":"its-always-the-quiet-ones","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/rebeccafrech\/2015\/04\/its-always-the-quiet-ones.html","title":{"rendered":"It’s Always The Quiet Ones"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

My other children are the ones that other people notice \u2013 their achievements, brains, and personalities make them all difficult to ignore. But our L is often overlooked. Most of his life, that\u2019s on purpose. He loves being able to slip into a roomful of people and be able to sit unnoticed while be observes everyone else. He\u2019s a world championship people-watcher and madcap wild inventor, and the most impressive person that the world never notices.<\/p>\n

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If ever there was a walking example of perseverance, it is my 13-year-old son. Born with a vision disorder<\/a> that manifests in double (and sometimes triple) vision, he has no visual memory of words or numbers. On a practical level, that means that he has no \u201cmemory words\u201d or math problems that he can write out from memory. Because of his double vision and its partner-in-crime dyslexia, math problems and reading words never look the same way twice.<\/p>\n

Every word he reads must be sounded out. Even the simplest of math problems must be calculated. He cannot look at 4+4 and immediately think 8 because his brain doesn\u2019t recognize that it\u2019s ever seen 4+4 before. It took an incredibly painful and frustrating three years before he could move beyond First Grade math because of what happened to his brain once we added a second digit to the addends. And so he has plodded along, one problem at a time, unable to pull up the math tables he can recite by rote. His brain doesn\u2019t connect those numbers with the lines of figures printed on the page.<\/p>\n

The frustration he feels will boil up in him until he escapes to the sanctuary of our Lego room to find solace in creating.<\/p>\n

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Doesn\u2019t every family have a spare bedroom where the Legos can be poured out onto the floor for hours of leisurely building?<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>Eventually, he will creep back downstairs to resume his lessons.<\/p>\n

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Nobody sees his daily war to continue learning how to use the letters and numbers which stubbornly refuse to behave for him. Page by page, he plods along determined to unlock the puzzle they present. He refuses to stop learning just because it\u2019s hard. I don\u2019t actually think that the idea that he can quit has ever occurred to him.<\/p>\n

I asked him the other day what he wanted to be when he grew up, and he rattled off a list that included soldier, Lego master builder, electrician\u2026.and maybe a priest.<\/p>\n

\u201cA priest?\u201d I asked.<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t know if I have what it takes though,\u201d he sighed at me. \u201cPriests have to be willing to never give up and stand brave even when things get hard.\u201d He shook his shaggy head. \u201cI don\u2019t know if I could be the kind of guy who never quits.\u201d<\/p>\n

Then he turned back to the worksheet he\u2019d been diligently laboring over for the past two hours and doggedly returned to the task at hand.<\/p>\n

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Whatever other faults he may have, I don\u2019t think that quitting will ever be one of them.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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