{"id":463,"date":"2012-05-16T07:58:00","date_gmt":"2012-05-16T07:58:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/rebeccafrech\/2012\/05\/answers-for-karyn-and-lena.html"},"modified":"2014-08-22T15:48:58","modified_gmt":"2014-08-22T20:48:58","slug":"answers-for-karyn-and-lena","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/rebeccafrech\/2012\/05\/answers-for-karyn-and-lena.html","title":{"rendered":"Answers (for Karyn and Lena)"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><span style=\"color: #0b5394\">Lena asked when there would be a new blog header.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span> The answer is now.\u00a0\u00a0 I have an idea in my mind, but haven\u2019t gotten it done yet.\u00a0 This one will be up until I do, if it ever happens.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s start with Karyn\u2019s easy peasy ones:<br><span style=\"color: #0b5394\">And a more mundane question \u2013 I have  been veiling at church. But when am I suppose to put the veil on and  when do I take off? Like\u2026do I only wear it in the sanctuary and take  it right off as I leave? Is it okay to put it on and off in the van? I  don\u2019t know anyone else who veils in order to ask. <\/span>I know this has already been answered in the comments on another post, but I\u2019ll answer it, too.\u00a0 I don\u2019t think there are any hard and fast rules.\u00a0 My grandmother put hers on in the car so that she could get it perfect with the aid of a mirror.\u00a0 I put mine on just before I enter the nave of the church. (Mostly because chasing my sons will cause it to fly right off of my head.) You are supposed to wear it the entire time you are in the presence of the Tabernacle.\u00a0 That\u2019s Jesus in there! so we cover our heads in respect. Mine also comes off almost as soon as I leave the church itself.\u00a0 I have to chase those boys again and I don\u2019t want it in the dirt.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #0b5394\">Okay, last  question \u2013 who is your patron (or favorite) saint? I see the three on  the side here but I don\u2019t know if they\u2019re for specific causes (such as  St. Aphonsus for your daughter) \u2013 but do you have a \u201cgo-to\u201d saint?\u00a0 <\/span>My go to girl is St Rita of Cascia.\u00a0 She\u2019s the patroness of impossible causes.\u00a0 I love her, and she\u2019s helped to pray me out of many a tight spot.<br>St Catherine of Alexandria is my Confirmation saint.\u00a0 She\u2019s a girl who was known for having a big mouth and talking herself into all kinds of trouble. \ud83d\ude42 Whenever I need to have a serious discussion with someone or stand up in front of a crowd for a talk, she\u2019s the girl I\u2019m asking for help. I figure she knows what to ask for.<br>St Michael is there because I pray his prayer and ask for his intercession whenever I find myself in the midst of spiritual warfare or when I\u2019m really afraid.\u00a0 That\u2019s when an Angel with a sword is handy to have around <\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #0b5394\">Woohoo, that was fun! Wish I had some \u201creal life\u201d Catholic moms around me to ask questions like that!<span style=\"color: black\">It was fun!\u00a0 Please ask anytime you want to know something (and this goes for anyone else, too.)<\/span><\/span><br><span style=\"color: #0b5394\"><span style=\"color: black\"><br><\/span><\/span><br><span style=\"color: #0b5394\"><span style=\"color: black\"><br><\/span><\/span><br><span style=\"color: #0b5394\"><span style=\"color: black\">Now for the hard one:<\/span><\/span><br><span style=\"color: #0b5394\"><span style=\"color: black\"><br><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"color: #0b5394\">Well\u2026okay. I\u2019m a more recent convert but I\u2019m finding that I\u2019m becoming  more and more of a traditional Catholic, despite my RCIA training, lol.  Anyway, what are some of the church teachings you struggle with the  most? Maybe you obey them because they are the Church\u2019s teachings but  you don\u2019t fully understand the reason for them and\/or the teachings just  go against your nature.<\/div>\n<div style=\"color: #0b5394\"><span style=\"color: black\">Let me start off by welcoming you to the Church!\u00a0 My husband is a convert or 5 years and I see him becoming more traditional as well. I think it\u2019s normal to fall in love and be drawn ever closer.<\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"color: #0b5394\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"color: #0b5394\"><span style=\"color: black\">It\u2019s no secret around here that the one I struggle the most with is the ban on contraception.\u00a0 I understand banning those which are aboritfacients, but oh how I wish the others weren\u2019t there.\u00a0<\/span> <span style=\"color: black\">I don\u2019t want any more children.\u00a0 As the mom of 7 I feel as if I am at my limit in terms of resources, time, patience, attention, etc.\u00a0 I have pretty severe ADD and being unmedicated is a trial.\u00a0 Knowing that a new baby means I\u2019m on my own for the 9 months of pregnancy plus however long I\u2019m nursing is not something I ever want to think about. Which makes the idea of a new baby exhausting to me.\u00a0 Add onto that that my husband <i>really<\/i> doesn\u2019t want more<\/span> <span style=\"color: black\">and it is truly a struggle for both of us.\u00a0 I recognize that most of my reasons for not wanting a #8 are selfish, but I often wonder if that\u2019s always a bad thing.\u00a0 <\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"color: #0b5394\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"color: #0b5394\"><span style=\"color: black\">We would joyfully welcome another baby just as we have all of our unplanned children, but it would be the struggle it always is in the beginning to find the joy and not the weariness.\u00a0 God has already shown us many times that nothing we do to prevent them will stop what is His will.\u00a0 When we began studying the Church\u2019s teachings, we recognized the wisdom and love of the ban on contraception.\u00a0 I just wish it wasn\u2019t.\u00a0 I wish I didn\u2019t agree with the Church, because it\u2019s a daily struggle against myself to follow her teachings.<\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"color: #0b5394\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"color: #0b5394\"><span style=\"color: black\">Which is probably why it is good for me.\u00a0 It reminds the control freak in me that I\u2019m not in charge\u2026.ever.\u00a0 It tells the selfish part of me to pipe down, and pushes me to grow to a better person ever closer to God.\u00a0 That said, there are days when I wonder how long the sentence is in Purgatory for getting those tubes tied.\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"color: #0b5394\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"color: #0b5394\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"color: #0b5394\"><span style=\"color: black\">(Not that I will\u2026.don\u2019t start lecturing me.) <\/span><\/div>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Lena asked when there would be a new blog header.\u00a0\u00a0 The answer is now.\u00a0\u00a0 I have an idea in my mind, but haven\u2019t gotten it done yet.\u00a0 This one will be up until I do, if it ever happens. 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