{"id":505,"date":"2012-03-26T08:20:00","date_gmt":"2012-03-26T08:20:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/rebeccafrech\/2012\/03\/getting-back-up.html"},"modified":"2014-08-22T15:49:04","modified_gmt":"2014-08-22T20:49:04","slug":"getting-back-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/rebeccafrech\/2012\/03\/getting-back-up.html","title":{"rendered":"Getting Back Up"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><span style=\"color: #38761d\">\u00a0**before you read this, please know that my friend gave me permission to blog about his situation. So, no worries, I\u2019m not talking out of school here**<\/span><\/p>\n<p>I had an IM conversation this weekend with a friend where he referred to himself as a hypocrite.\u00a0 It\u2019s stuck with me ever sense, his self-flagellation.\u00a0 He is a person of very deep faith who never ceases to impress me on his walk with Christ.\u00a0 He loves and fully embraces the Catholic Church and all of her teachings.\u00a0 He\u2019s a great person and his family is lucky to have him.<\/p>\n<p>He slipped this week and went against his own very high moral standard and was so upset with himself for having done so.\u00a0 I can understand the disappointment he felt in himself and his feelings of failure.\u00a0 The standard he has set for himself is incredibly high, and I am in awe at how often he is able to meet it.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not sure I said the right things to him, and that\u2019s why it has haunted me.\u00a0 I don\u2019t like leaving things unsaid.\u00a0 What I wish I had said was:<\/p>\n<div style=\"color: #0b5394\">My sweet friend, I know how disappointed you are in yourself and how far you feel you have fallen.\u00a0 In your own regrets, I think you have lost sight of how far you have come.\u00a0 Your burden is heavy and can never be laid down and yet you carry it with such strength and grace.\u00a0 You refer to it all as \u201cmy cross\u201d, and I think you are right, it is.\u00a0 (You are forgetting that even Jesus fell under the weight of his cross, not once, but three times.)\u00a0 Everyone falls.\u00a0 There is no perfect way to bear the weight which you are carrying, and so \u201cfalling\u201d is understandable.\u00a0 The trick is in being able to stand up again and continue on.\u00a0 Turn your eyes to the Cross of Christ and let Him be your example.\u00a0 Unite your sufferings to His own, and seek out the healing peace of Confession.\u00a0 Remember that you are not completely alone on your walk.\u00a0 I am praying for you every day.<\/div>\n<p>That\u2019s what I wish I had said.\u00a0 I went with the ever more eloquent \u201cI\u2019m sorry.\u00a0 That sucks.\u00a0 I\u2019ve been there.\u201d\u00a0 I\u2019m not always as quick on my feet as I\u2019d like to be.\u00a0 It happens.<\/p>\n<p>Will you do me a favor?\u00a0 Will you say a quick prayer for my friend?\u00a0 An Our Father? Something?\u00a0 Will you consider taking him to Mass or Adoration with you this week? His burden is very heavy and he could use some lifting up.<\/p>\n<p>Thanks.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0**before you read this, please know that my friend gave me permission to blog about his situation. 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