{"id":743,"date":"2010-11-30T14:19:00","date_gmt":"2010-11-30T14:19:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/rebeccafrech\/2010\/11\/congratulations-im-sorry.html"},"modified":"2014-08-22T15:50:19","modified_gmt":"2014-08-22T20:50:19","slug":"congratulations-im-sorry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/rebeccafrech\/2010\/11\/congratulations-im-sorry.html","title":{"rendered":"Congratulations! &#8212;- I&#8217;m Sorry"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p>A friend of mine (mom of 7) and I (mom of 6) were talking this morning about babies and pregnancies and those emotional phone call we have made to each other as we waited for pregnancy test results and the mixed emotions either way.<\/p>\n<p>As moms of big families, we feel a pressure from our social circle to always be thrilled with each pregnancy test the moment that it is positive.\u00a0 We\u2019re pro-life and somehow that should translate into pro-baby-right-now, but it doesn\u2019t always.\u00a0 I don\u2019t know how to explain the sinking feeling of a positive pregnancy test on a tired an overwhelmed mother.\u00a0 The joy of expectation follows within moments, but that first gulping breath of fatigue\u2026..<\/p>\n<p>My friend and I have been each other\u2019s support as those tests were first looked at.\u00a0 We\u2019ve listened over the phone to the slow exhale.\u00a0 We\u2019ve said \u201cI\u2019m so sorry\u201d as the tears welled in each other\u2019s eyes.\u00a0 It\u2019s never the baby we\u2019re sorry for, but the crush of responsibility on an already burdened life.\u00a0 What else can you say when what seemed like not a bad possibility 2 weeks ago seems insurmountable now?<\/p>\n<p>As the tears dry and reality sets in, a bubble of joy rises up from within the middle of us, and moments after we said \u201cI\u2019m sorry\u201d we begin to laugh as we say \u201cWoo-hoo!\u00a0 Congratulations!\u201d\u00a0 But it would be wrong to pretend that the sorrow was not there too, or that a negative test would not have brought a measure of relief.<\/p>\n<p>Our way of life is so often condemned by the world, that we put up a united front and pretend that no child is ever a burden, but we are human and sometimes they are\u2026even if it is only for a moment\u2026even if it longer than that.<\/p>\n<p>Mothers of large families are not super-human. We don\u2019t have more patience.\u00a0 We don\u2019t have more of anything than anyone else.\u00a0 We simply have allowed God to be in charge of our lives\u2026.the whole of our lives\u2026No matter how scary that can sometimes be, and the rest of the world needs to know that it sometimes is.\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A friend of mine (mom of 7) and I (mom of 6) were talking this morning about babies and pregnancies and those emotional phone call we have made to each other as we waited for pregnancy test results and the mixed emotions either way. 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