{"id":867,"date":"2010-06-21T09:40:00","date_gmt":"2010-06-21T09:40:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/rebeccafrech\/2010\/06\/married-women-like-sex-too.html"},"modified":"2014-08-22T15:52:35","modified_gmt":"2014-08-22T20:52:35","slug":"married-women-like-sex-too","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/rebeccafrech\/2010\/06\/married-women-like-sex-too.html","title":{"rendered":"Married Women Like Sex Too"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

**Warning\u2013If you didn\u2019t get it from the title, this post is about sex. If you\u2019re not old enough, come back tomorrow.\u00a0 If you don\u2019t like reading about sex, come back tomorrow.\u00a0 If you get embarrassed, come back tomorrow.\u00a0 Otherwise, read on.**<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

A quick scan of magazine headlines in the grocery store, on the rare occasion when I don\u2019t bring children with me, would lead me to believe that single girls are swinging from the rafters and married women are baking pie. When did sex become something that only single women liked?\u00a0 What occurs when women put on that white wedding gown that makes editors, producers and society assume that we go numb from the neck down?<\/p>\n

I recently spent an educational three hours under a hair dryer reading Cosmo, Glamour, and other \u201csingle lady\u201d magazines I haven\u2019t picked up since college.\u00a0 I flipped open to a page which began \u201cHow many sexual positions can you name?\u201d\u00a0 I quickly listed 5.\u00a0 \u201cIf you named fewer than 20, then this is for you.\u201d\u00a0 20?\u00a0 Are they serious?\u00a0 Not only were they serious, they had 77.\u00a0 77!!!!!\u00a0 Why has no one told me these things before now?\u00a0 While not everything the author advocated was kosher for a believing Catholic, I would say 50 of the 77 were on the up and up.\u00a0 Have I been living under a rock?\u00a0 50!!!<\/p>\n

The next magazine I picked up gave detailed instructions for giving my man a massage.\u00a0 He has totally different pressure points than I do.\u00a0 It makes sense, but I\u2019ve never seen it before, and I read.\u00a0 I read a lot. There are reflexology points in the arches of his feet which relax his whole body, and others just above his ankles which wake him up and get his attention.\u00a0 Ladies Home Journal tells me what questions to ask the doctor about his heart health, Cosmo told me how to get his heart racing.\u00a0 Glamour told me \u201c37 Ways to Please Your Man and Leave Him Begging for More\u201d;\u00a0 Good Housekeeping tells me \u201c10 Summer Recipes They\u2019ll Really Love.\u201d\u00a0 Guess which ones I want to read?\u00a0 (Hint: I already have enough recipes.)<\/p>\n

Television is no better, with \u201cHow I Met Your Mother\u201d showing single 20\/30 somethings enjoying their sex lives, while \u201cThe Middle\u201d has a married couple too tired to even be interested.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Does something happen when we get married which has us more interested in making pies than making hay?\u00a0 Or do we just behave as if it has?\u00a0 In our desire to appear as the \u201cperfect\u201d mothers, have we forgotten the joy of being women?\u00a0 The sensuality of being wives?\u00a0 What are writers seeing that makes them think no one is chasing anyone around the bedroom any more?<\/p>\n

While most women I know would never dream of serving the same dinner 5 nights in a row because the family would quickly become bored, but they think nothing of offering their husbands the same bland, tired menu a couple times a month in the bedroom.\u00a0 We need to educate ourselves as to what is possible, decide what we consider acceptable, and go from there.\u00a0 We need to remind ourselves that we are women; women who are loved.\u00a0 We need to slip into his arms, not as his exhausted wife, but as his beloved bride.\u00a0 We need to rediscover sex.<\/p>\n

Sex is a gift to us and to our marriages.\u00a0 It is not meant to be one more job on a to do list; it should be fun and joyful, full of play and delight in each other.\u00a0 God did not design our sexuality merely for the begetting of children.\u00a0 Its other purpose is to draw us together, to strengthen our bond within marriage, to remind us of our enchantment with each other, to give of ourselves completely and unreservedly, to become one flesh, and for joy.\u00a0 Sex is for joy.<\/span><\/i>\u00a0 I think that too often we forget that.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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