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LeAnn and I were so excited to visit a doctor after discovered she might be pregnant with our first child (Natalie). We were the starry-eyed couple on the verge of a major life change waiting patiently for our chance to confirm. When we saw the doctor, a gruff old man who had probably delivered more than his fair share of babies, our enthusiasm came crashing right into his apathy. When he couldn\u2019t hear the heartbeat, he refused an ultrasound that the nurses had promised. \u201cI gave them the afternoon off. That\u2019s the problem with promising . . . you can promise the moon but they can\u2019t deliver it.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Our overwhelming joy turned to concern. \u201cIs it possible that she\u2019s not really pregnant?\u201d I asked. He looked at me snarled, \u201cIf she\u2019s not, are you going to leave her?\u201d <\/i><\/b>My mouth dropped open. Was this really happening? Perhaps Dr. \u201cHouse\u201d thought he was cute or funny or just didn\u2019t care. Maybe he stopped caring after Baby 10,0000. We cared, though . . . deeply. I told LeAnn I did not want to make this journey with a man who was just \u201cover it.\u201d After another visit, the nurse\u2019s eyes widened when I asked for our chart, determined to find another physician who had at least an inkling of the anticipation we were feeling. We were blessed to find a professional, joyful young woman who awaited Natalie\u2019s arrival almost as much as we did. She was her first baby to deliver. Score.<\/p>\n

Along with this memory, there\u2019s at least one another significant moment where I believe I was being sold one thing by a provider while another gave me a more honest diagnosis. When our family was presented with one long-term care scenario by a professional, I joked that \u201cthis is the funding plan for their new boat.\u201d It turned out that someone else had a more manageable plan that worked just as well.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we are just too timid or embarrassed to not agree to the first solution offered to us. We shouldn\u2019t be. It\u2019s our lives, our family and our resources being affected. If it\u2019s a really hard sell, there\u2019s a reason for that. They probably don\u2019t want you thinking about it for too long.<\/p>\n

Has there even been a time when you searched for a second opinion with a professional, whether health-care, retail or even repair services? Share in the comments.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"