{"id":1967,"date":"2026-04-23T04:30:44","date_gmt":"2026-04-23T11:30:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/relationshipmatters\/?p=1967"},"modified":"2026-04-22T18:16:42","modified_gmt":"2026-04-23T01:16:42","slug":"how-do-you-live-your-best-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/relationshipmatters\/2026\/04\/how-do-you-live-your-best-life\/","title":{"rendered":"How Do You Live Your Best Life?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

When I say, \u201cbest life\u201d I don\u2019t mean the version where everything works out and every dream lands right on time.<\/p>\n

I mean the life where you step into what God wired you for. Where you use what you\u2019ve been given. Where you don\u2019t shrink back.<\/p>\n

Because if we\u2019re honest, most people don\u2019t miss their calling because they lack ability. They miss it because they stayed comfortable.<\/p>\n

Comfort is predictable. Safe. Manageable.<\/p>\n

But it rarely leads to a sense of purpose.<\/p>\n

We want a roadmap<\/a>, but God asks for trust and invites us to step out in faith before we can see where it leads.<\/p>\n

At some point, living your best life will require taking risks. Not reckless, but real. The kind where you don\u2019t have all the answers. The kind where you move forward anyway.<\/p>\n

I love this quote by Les Brown<\/a>: \u201cToo many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.\u201d<\/p>\n

We too often sit and ask a thousand what-if questions.<\/strong><\/p>\n

What if it fails?<\/em><\/p>\n

What if I\u2019m wrong?<\/em><\/p>\n

What if people don\u2019t support it?<\/em><\/p>\n

What if I\u2019m not enough?<\/em><\/p>\n

What if I lose what I already have?<\/em><\/p>\n

And slowly, without realizing it, those questions become a cage.<\/p>\n

(Read more about the \u201cland of what-if\u201d here<\/a>.)<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a reality: Most of what you\u2019re worried about hasn\u2019t happened. And a lot of it never will. But it still keeps you stuck.<\/p>\n

And stuck has a cost.<\/p>\n

What happens when you ignore your calling?<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s a heavy question to carry.<\/p>\n

Because you don\u2019t just stay where you are. You settle. You drift. You trade potential for predictability. And years later, you look back and wonder what could have been.<\/p>\n

Some people don\u2019t move forward because of fear.<\/p>\n

Others don\u2019t move forward because of their past. They\u2019ve made mistakes. Failed publicly. Took hits they didn\u2019t see coming. And somewhere along the way, they decided they were no longer qualified.<\/p>\n

But that\u2019s not<\/em> how God works.<\/p>\n

God qualifies the called. He doesn\u2019t wait for you to have a perfect track record. He works with willing and humble people. Honest people. People who are still standing, even if they\u2019re a little bruised and walk with a limp.<\/p>\n

Your past may explain you, but it does not define you.<\/p>\n

Your past may tell part of your story, but it does not disqualify you and doesn\u2019t get to decide your future.<\/p>\n

So ask yourself this: Where are you choosing safety and convenience when you know you\u2019re called to step out?<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t find your best life by avoiding risk.<\/strong><\/p>\n

John Wimber used to say, \u201cFaith is spelled R. I. S.K.\u201d<\/p>\n

He\u2019s right.<\/p>\n

You find your best life and God\u2019s purpose when you step out of your comfort zone, move into the unknown, and trust Him with what comes next.<\/p>\n

In what is commonly known as the great faith<\/em> chapter in the New Testament, the writer tells us, \u201cWithout faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.\u201d Hebrews 11:6<\/a><\/p>\n

I would add\u2026 Faith is not proven by what you believe, but by what you\u2019re willing to risk.<\/p>\n

A safe faith never changes your life. If you\u2019re not embracing uncertainty, you may not be trusting God to guide you toward the life He intends for you.<\/p>\n

I\u2019d love to hear from you!<\/b><\/span><\/h3>\n

Drop a comment below and let\u2019s start a conversation. Your thoughts matter, and they might just encourage someone else as well.<\/p>\n

Want more stories, hope, and honest insights? You can find me on\u00a0Facebook<\/a>, or delve<\/span> deeper into my heart and writing on LinkedIn<\/a>.<\/p>\n

My books are available<\/a> too, if you\u2019re curious (or just need something to read with your coffee).<\/p>\n

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