{"id":1345,"date":"2013-06-30T18:23:00","date_gmt":"2013-06-30T18:23:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/rhetoricraceandreligion\/2013\/06\/religious-double-standards-leave-many-muslims-single.html"},"modified":"2013-06-30T18:23:00","modified_gmt":"2013-06-30T18:23:00","slug":"religious-double-standards-leave-many-muslims-single","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/rhetoricraceandreligion\/2013\/06\/religious-double-standards-leave-many-muslims-single.html","title":{"rendered":"Religious Double Standards Leave Many Muslims Single"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>
Munira Ezzeldine, a marriage counselor in Irvine, Calif., who is one of the instructors of a premarital course, tells me that Islam in America is at a \u201ckind of crossroads now.\u201d<\/span><\/div>\n
She explains, \u201cWe don\u2019t have something called dating in the Western context, you know with pre-marital sex and all the stuff that comes with it.\u201d But young Muslims are also not interested in having arranged marriages as their parents and grandparents did. \u201cThey actually want to get to know the person for a certain amount of time, but also within the boundaries.\u201d<\/span><\/div>\n
If a young Muslim is aiming for this kind of compromise, there are other resources too. Ezzeldine, who wrote a short book called \u201cBefore the Wedding: Questions for Muslims to Ask Before Getting Married,\u201d tries to offer her coreligionists a way of getting to know each other without violating the standards of the faith. Ezzeldine wants Muslims to have \u201cthe conversations to get to know somebody for marriage in a way\u201d that is more than superficial. Right now they often just say, \u201cOh I think we get along,\u201d but they don\u2019t know \u201cwhat you need to know about a person\u201d before you marry him or her. She also notes that families in the Muslim community have wildly different expectations of religious life and marriage so it is important for everyone to be on the same page.<\/span><\/div>\n
Interestingly, the lack of communication between Muslim men and women before marriage noted by many Muslim leaders is actually part of a larger problem that Ezzeldine believes is resulting in more interfaith matches. Ezzeldine suggests that the Muslim community\u2019s standards for interacting with members of the opposite sex are actually having a deleterious effect on marriage in the community. It is often easier for a Muslim to meet a non-Muslim of the opposite sex\u2013in school for instance\u2013than for a Muslim to meet another Muslim in a religiously sanctioned setting because Muslim prayer and religious education are all segregated by sex.<\/span><\/div>\n
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Munira Ezzeldine, a marriage counselor in Irvine, Calif., who is one of the instructors of a premarital course, tells me that Islam in America is at a \u201ckind of crossroads now.\u201d She explains, \u201cWe don\u2019t have something called dating in the Western context, you know with pre-marital sex and all the stuff that comes with […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2251,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1345","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\nReligious Double Standards Leave Many Muslims Single<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Munira Ezzeldine, a marriage counselor in Irvine, Calif., who is one of the instructors of a premarital course, tells me that Islam in America is at a\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/rhetoricraceandreligion\/2013\/06\/religious-double-standards-leave-many-muslims-single.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Religious Double Standards Leave Many Muslims Single\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Munira Ezzeldine, a marriage counselor in Irvine, Calif., who is one of the instructors of a premarital course, tells me that Islam in America is at a\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/rhetoricraceandreligion\/2013\/06\/religious-double-standards-leave-many-muslims-single.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Rhetoric Race and Religion\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2013-06-30T18:23:00+00:00\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Andre E. 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