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One of the greatest heartbreaks in my life occurred after coming out at the age of 24: I lost my Muslim community. After my public coming out, via an article inThe Los Angeles Times<\/em>, and the backlash that came with it, I retreated. I distanced myself from the people I cared about, the people I\u2019d been raised with in the\u00a0masjid<\/em>in Los Angeles, those whom I viewed as extended members of my own family. I was certain that they had stopped caring about me. It took me years to take responsibility for my part in that break rather than only see myself as a victim of circumstance.<\/span><\/div>\n
Many Ramadans and Eids went by without seeing any of the friends or elders I had known my entire life. The only relationship I had with other Muslims was with my immediate family \u2014 a relationship that was growing increasingly toxic. Though I saw my family regularly, I was not being seen. Our conversations always avoided the subject of my life.<\/span><\/div>\n
The lack of intimacy with my family took such a toll on my mental well-being that I jumped at the opportunity to move to New York City for graduate school. I thought placing the entire country between us would get my family to recognize my value.<\/span><\/div>\n
What I discovered in New York City was nothing short of a miracle.\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n
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