{"id":939,"date":"2014-01-27T10:55:00","date_gmt":"2014-01-27T10:55:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/rhetoricraceandreligion\/2014\/01\/assault-in-academia-my-meeting-at-rca-part-5.html"},"modified":"2014-01-27T10:55:00","modified_gmt":"2014-01-27T10:55:00","slug":"assault-in-academia-my-meeting-at-rca-part-5","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/rhetoricraceandreligion\/2014\/01\/assault-in-academia-my-meeting-at-rca-part-5.html","title":{"rendered":"Assault in Academia: My Meeting at RCA, Part 5"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

by Andre E. Johnson<\/a><\/span>
R3 Editor<\/span>

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Read the series <\/span>here<\/a><\/span>

<\/span>When I returned home, I finally returned the call of our Executive Secretary of RCA Janie Fritz. From the outset, she apologized profusely about the way my assailant treated me and demonstrated concern about my feelings. She also apologized for the group and wondered aloud why no one said anything at the time the assault happened. However, after hearing my story for the first time, her indignation rose even higher. Again, she apologized and asked if I would mind if she shared our discussions with other board members. I said I did not because I am sure the board members would hear from me via the list-serve anyway.<\/span><\/div>\n
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As we continued to talk, I heard on the other end of the phone, while struggling at times to find the right thing to say, a person I found to be sincere in what she said. I believed she was truly sorry the incident occurred and extremely embarrassed that it occurred during the business meeting of the Religious Communication Association. She promised that this would not \u201cjust go away\u201d and we would stay in touch with each other throughout the year. <\/span><\/div>\n
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After speaking with her, it was time to turn my attention to respond to my assailant\u2019s apology. I thought maybe that I would just let it slide because I had already made up my mind not to ever attend another RCA gathering. Then I thought maybe I would just write thank you and let it go at that. I also thought I should just write, \u201capology not accepted\u201d and just leave it at that. <\/span><\/div>\n
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However, when I opened the email again and read the brief apology, something happened. No longer was I ashamed. No longer did I wonder if I did the right thing. No longer was I angry, upset or mad. No longer was I frustrated or embarrassed. I all of a sudden felt empowered and I began to write.\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n
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Thank you for your email. I would have responded sooner, but I attended another conference right after NCA and arrived home late Tuesday night. However, I do not know if I would have responded right away even if I had the time because frankly, I am still trying to process why would you\u00a0assault\u00a0me anyway!\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

First, you said that your \u201chead smack\u201d was meant with endearment as your \u201cbrothers and cousins often tease and enjoy each other.\u201d (Name), I have never heard such a thing in my life! Moreover, even so, I AM NOT <\/span>ONE OF YOUR BROTHERS OR COUSINS! We are not family and furthermore, we do not know each other. Again, I must ask, what in the world made you think that you could hit me ANYWHERE on my person? You are right, however, it was unprofessional within that context, but for us, it would be unprofessional in any context, because again, we do not know each other!\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Truthfully, it is hard for me to accept this line of thinking anyway, because if you saw, as you wrote, Denise and I \u201cboth enjoying the moment,\u201d I noticed that you did not smack her upside the head. In other words, if we both were enjoying the moment and having fun, why didn\u2019t you feel the need to show her \u201cendearment\u201d and smack her upside the head? I for one am glad you did not, but why did you singled me out for your special type of \u201cteasing?\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Secondly, the smack came right after I announced again to the body that I was withdrawing my name from consideration for the second VP position. Your assault indicated to me that you did not like my decision (which again, is an odd way of showing support). The assault came from your \u201cstanding\u201d position as I was sitting. It came as a shock and surprise. It signified to me that you thought I was some sort of dunce, dummy, or at least not intelligent enough to make a decision that Denise and I talked about before the meeting even started. Your \u201csmack\u201d demeaned, humiliated, embarrassed and angered me greatly.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Moreover, (name), we cannot (and I will not allow) this moment to pass without mentioning the obvious\u2014you as a white man slapped me, a black man in a condescending and paternalistic way. This probably hurts the most because truthfully, it took every ounce of my teaching and belief in non-violence and my call as a minister to sit in that chair and not to get up and slap you back. As I sat there fuming, counting to ten, trying to understand what happened, asking myself did this just happen, I also realized something else. I felt angry\u2014and no one in that room understood what I was going through other than the two (African American) men that attended the meeting with me. (Name), I realized at that moment that if I would have retaliated, I would have been the one who was wrong; the \u201cbig black man\u201d (or some other word) at NCA acting up and not being \u201ccivilized.\u201d You assaulting me first would have gone by the wayside, as others would have been rushing to your aid offering you help, help that by the way, I did not receive.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

So after I gathered myself and brushed back your weak, ineffective, and quite frankly pitiful attempts at an apology (\u201cI was just playing,\u201d \u201cIt wasn\u2019t that hard,\u201d \u201cOkay you can hit me back,\u201d) I just left the meeting. Even in leaving, I felt bad because it felt like I was running away because I could not deal with the bully. However, if I would have dealt with your bullying\u2014verbally or otherwise, I would have come off as \u201cproblematic,\u201d \u201cemotional,\u201d \u201cangry,\u201d \u201chard to deal with,\u201d or any other words people throw around when African Americans a
\nctually speak up to express themselves.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Finally, the first and last parts of your email shock me. Your words shock me because you ASSUME that I would want to continue serving and working with RCA. Please follow me here; after you assault me, humiliate and demean me, you still EXPECT me to work with you and the organization? What about my feelings; are they valid? Should I just grin, forget this happen, just smile, and continue my work with RCA and you? That (name) has to be the most insulting thing in the email (among others). It\u2019s the equivalent of the battered spouse expected to come back home and submit to the treatment without any acknowledgment of the pain and hurt she or he caused.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

(Name), to let you know, I do not know if I will offer to serve with RCA in the future. I am still processing what happened to me. In addition, Janie Fritz did reach out to me and I will talk to her as well. She was instrumental in getting me to come and participate in RCA in the first place. (Name), I am beginning to question however, if you or even the whole of RCA wants me as a member. It did not go unnoticed that outside of myself and the two friends I asked to attend that there was no other person of color in that room that day. Were you attempting to send me the message that I am not really wanted?<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

In addition, I would also hope that an apology would come from you via the list-serve. Why? While this email was a private correspondence to me, your \u201csmack\u201d took place publicly. I think an apology to the body is in order and while you may want to keep this between us, I do not. Therefore, I do hope to see your apology coming through the list-serve.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

In closing, I do not expect you to understand how I feel. I am sure you will disagree on the way I feel and think I am blowing this out of proportion. However, I do understand why you would see it that way. It is the same thinking allowed you to think that it was okay to assault me in the first place. (Name), do you see me as a person with feelings, with emotions, or do you only see me with the emotions and feelings you ascribe to me? Nevertheless, I am not asking you to understand, but I am asking you to at least hear me and affirm my feelings. In short, at least see that I have them. Then maybe we can start on the road of forgiveness and hopefully reconciliation.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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To be Continued\u2026\u2026..<\/span><\/i><\/span><\/i>

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