Make a conscious decision to let go of the past. If it wasn\u2019t such a great thing ~ why continue to visit or, worse, camp out there? If something triggers a past hurt and it feels \u201cbad\u201d recognize that there are wounds that may cause you to walk with an emotional limp for a season, but the effect of the experience can change if you choose to allow it.\u00a0 Truly when we can look back and laugh at our experiences, they have become our education.\nThe only way we can overcome our fear of being hurt again, is to recognize these fears are attached to us only as much as we are anchored to our past. We can face tomorrow because the ONE who led through the darkness is still here holding our hand every time the memory arises.\u00a0 So, just like someone learning to walk again after a terrible accident, choose to simply get up, show up and do the best you can with what lies before you.\u00a0 <\/p>\n
Once you allow the shackles that have anchored you to the past to fall off, they will no longer define you. We can grow stronger and better because of the things we\u2019ve experienced and the lessons we\u2019ve taken away.\u00a0 At the end of the day, we may have a few scars, but all the wounds will heal.\u00a0 Refuse to allow challenges to become excuses. Cease trying to control what you are unable to change and eliminate the excuses that prevent you from changing the things you can!<\/p>\n
\u00a0Embrace the Past, Then Release<\/p>\n
The decision to cut anchors continually gives strength, confidence and drive to live life free and to the fullest.\u00a0\u00a0 This will probably be the best thing you ever do for yourself. It won\u2019t bring national acclaim.\u00a0 Someone looking may not be able to see it. But in the area of weight loss, internally, you\u2019ll drop about a million pounds.\u00a0 <\/p>\n
Being bound to the past with anchors from old hurts causes us to feel like we live in a minefield.\u00a0\u00a0 If a certain incident happens, it can trigger pain as real and overwhelming as when the wound was brand new.\u00a0 We feel powerless to be free.\u00a0 It can result in our feeling controlled by others who have hurt us.\u00a0 It weakens the resolve to live life above average.<\/p>\n
To fully live out the peace and joy of life, we need to discover the ability to wake up and live and love like the experiences never happened. Yes! It is possible. We need the season of wandering in the desert in life to truly find the direction we needed to be headed in. The decision is simple. The difficulty is in waiting with little or no understanding for life experiences to bring us to a place where we \u201cwant to be free.\u201d\u00a0 We have to learn to let others \u2018off the hook\u2019 for hurting us.\u00a0 We have to confront our own hearts and realize that we have hurt and wounded others, often unintentionally.\u00a0 I have come to believe that most people have a good reason for doing what they do \u2013 even if I don\u2019t understand their reasoning.<\/p>\n
Avoid Allowing Issues to Fester<\/p>\n
Refusing to let go or confront issues may result in bitterness and resentment. Bitterness is the awful bite of resentment that causes the soul of the person in which it resides to swell up in pain. Not properly dealt with, it can spread throughout the emotional system of the person and begin to harden their heart.\u00a0 Bitterness is transmitted from person to person in the recounting \u2014 retelling or rehearsing \u2014 of an unpleasant experience, whether real or imagined.
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In allowing this bitterness, we can push away the ones we want and need in our lives. We need people who are safe and responsible in our lives. They help us to grow and to gain value from things we need to face and deal with. Our life choices are the best gauge for whether or not we live joyful, enthusiastic and confident versus sad, depressed and anxious. We can develop the determination to live a life of significance and purpose. <\/p>\n
This happens best in a climate of being thankful to God even in circumstances we don\u2019t understand, for teaching us that He always cares for us and we can depend on Him. Once we master these things, we will never again be shaken beyond what we recognize as something that He is working for good in our lives.<\/p>\n
To gain this incredible breakthrough in life, make it a habit to spend quiet time daily in His presence through reading the Bible, an encouraging book or devotional, prayer, journaling or simply relaxing in a comfy place with a cup of coffee or tea.\u00a0 It is the familiarity in life that brings comfort. Regular routine, special memories, good friends, favorite songs etc. that become our daily therapy to get re-focused during times we are tempted to cave in under stress.<\/p>\n
In this time, I have found God to be the greatest counselor, coach, and therapist available at no charge to me.\u00a0 The cost has been full surrender of my agenda.\u00a0 The benefits have been a sense of purpose, fulfillment and confidence that each day, each decision, each encounter can bring meaning, vision and sustained change and healing to my life.<\/p>\n
Sheri Geyer is a Professional \u201cSimple Wisdom for Life\u201d Coach, Mentor, Writer, Wife & Mom<\/p>\n
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