{"id":164,"date":"2012-08-06T10:00:54","date_gmt":"2012-08-06T16:00:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/roguereverend\/?p=164"},"modified":"2012-08-06T10:00:54","modified_gmt":"2012-08-06T16:00:54","slug":"constrained-by-your-own-parameters","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/roguereverend\/2012\/08\/constrained-by-your-own-parameters\/","title":{"rendered":"Constrained By Your Own Parameters"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><\/p>\n<p>Betsy Carter writes:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>It\u2019s easy to feel constrained by your own parameters. You look at your parents and the house in which you grew up and think, that\u2019s it: These are the things that define my life, why bother to try and break out of them.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>As I look at my life, today, I\u2019m identifying my parameters. And wondering how to feel less constrained from them. The roles that I\u2019ve picked out for myself: pastor, writer, friend, daughter, girlfriend are the ones that define, but what about the others? What about those ones that I don\u2019t share with anyone but myself and sometimes my therapist?<\/p>\n<p>How can I break those parameters? Because I think breaking out of them may be important.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Betsy Carter writes: It\u2019s easy to feel constrained by your own parameters. You look at your parents and the house in which you grew up and think, that\u2019s it: These are the things that define my life, why bother to try and break out of them. 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