{"id":2160,"date":"2012-10-03T10:35:45","date_gmt":"2012-10-03T17:35:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/scientologybeliefs\/?p=2160"},"modified":"2012-10-03T10:35:45","modified_gmt":"2012-10-03T17:35:45","slug":"how-do-i-get-my-child-to-listen-to-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/scientologybeliefs\/2012\/10\/how-do-i-get-my-child-to-listen-to-me\/","title":{"rendered":"How Do I Get My Child to Listen to Me?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

This posting by\u00a0Cheri Hall appears on the Scientology Parent blog<\/a>. \u00a0Ms. Hall\u00a0\u00a0has been an educator for over 38 years.<\/em><\/p>\n

A very common complaint that comes up from parents is that their child just doesn\u2019t listen.\u00a0\u201cHow do I get my child to listen to me?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Take parents of small children. You have told your child many times to pick up his toys, or to wipe his hands on a napkin not his shirt, or to please not grab the toy from his younger sister\u2019s hands. You\u2019ve said this many times. So, why is it still happening?<\/p>\n

With teenagers, parents have been trying to explain why they shouldn\u2019t do things, or why they should. You are asking your teen to clean her room, or explaining why a specific friend isn\u2019t the best influence. Or maybe you are asking simply that homework is done before TV. You are doing what is best for your child, simply trying to help your child do better in life. So why is she still not listening to you? Why is there argument after argument?<\/p>\n

Likely you are getting frustrated at this point. Some parents will start yelling, getting angry or start penalizing now, to make a point. Hoping that this point will be gotten and behavior will change. Does it always work?<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s take a young boy who runs through the living room in muddy shoes. The first time it happens, you may sigh, have him look at the mud, explain why he shouldn\u2019t do it, and then go to clean it up. The second time it happens, you are bound to say \u201cDidn\u2019t I tell you not to run through here with your shoes??\u201d get a little frustrated, maybe bang around a bit while you clean up. The third time\u2026 well, that is just enough, and your son has to sit in his room for an hour (or whatever the penalty may be).<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s look at what\u00a0L. Ron Hubbard<\/a>\u00a0says about this:<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen an individual attempts to control something and fails to do so, he then experiences an antipathy toward that thing. In other words, he has not been right. He has been wrong. His intention has failed. His intention has, you might say, backfired upon him. Thus as one attempts to control things and then fails to control them, he is likely to drop down\u00a0Tone Scale<\/a>\u00a0about those things.\u201d \u2013 LRH,Problems of Work<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Okay, so that explains what may happen to a parent during this time. Well, what is the solution? In this same chapter, just a little after the above quote, he says:<\/p>\n

\u201cIf one really communicates and communicates well to these people \u2013 listens to what they have to say and acknowledges what they say and says what he has to say to them, gently enough and often enough so that it is actually received by them \u2013 he will regain, to a very marked degree, his ability to associate and coordinate the actions of those people with whom he is immediately surrounded.\u201d<\/em>\u2013 LRH,\u00a0Problems of Work<\/em><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

So let\u2019s really look at this point. Does it take patience? Absolutely. Does it work? You bet. It has worked every time we have applied it here at\u00a0Mojave Academy<\/a>. It has worked for each parent that I have seen through this, as long as they applied it. It worked for me when I raised my kids.<\/p>\n

The earlier you start with this, the better. Starting this out with young children is quite easy. They do pick things up fast, and your patience and caring will reflect in the way they treat you. Remember the \u201clistening\u201d part. Ask them why they do what they are doing and listen and understand and acknowledge it. Don\u2019t include a \u201cbut\u201d in any acknowledgement. Just simply go over what you need and why and how this helps. Then be willing to go through the cycle again later.<\/p>\n

If your child is a teen and the point you want to handle has been ongoing for five years, you can bet that you will be having to use that patience to the extreme, and it won\u2019t likely change as fast as you like. But stick through it. You\u2019ll win and so will they!<\/p>\n

Yours for a better future,<\/p>\n

Cheri Hall, Executive Director of Mojave Academy<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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