{"id":3525,"date":"2015-10-23T12:33:29","date_gmt":"2015-10-23T12:33:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/oshetablogs.wordpress.com\/?p=3525"},"modified":"2015-10-23T12:33:29","modified_gmt":"2015-10-23T12:33:29","slug":"friendship-project-day-13-letting-the-black-girls-in","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/shalominthecity\/2015\/10\/friendship-project-day-13-letting-the-black-girls-in\/","title":{"rendered":"Friendship Project Day 13: Letting the Black Girls In"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

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One of the most surprising gifts of Allume was talking to Amena Owen Brown, the powerhouse spoken word poet who is as hilarious as she is approachable.\u00a0 We talked about marriage (we\u2019re both in interracial marriages), motherhood, racism, and girlfriends.\u00a0 Amena, during a tea time shared her poem, \u201cGirlfriends\u201d which she\u2019s contemplating changing to \u201cWarrior Women\u201d about the power of friendship.\u00a0 I posted the video to my Facebook page here.\u00a0 It\u2019s amazing.<\/p>\n

In the Allume Lounge, I broke down in tears about never feeling black enough for my black girlfriends and and how when I write about racism in America I feel like a fraud.\u00a0 Sitting across from me poised and regal, so full of wisdom and kindness, she encouraged me to let black women in- through their writing and through their friendships. When I protested that I don\u2019t feel like I fit in, that I don\u2019t belong, she countered with this profound truth:<\/p>\n

There are layers and varied expressions of my blackness and regardless of if I don\u2019t feel like I fit in, I do because every day I wake up a black woman in America.\u00a0 That alone, that shared experience means I am enough.<\/p>\n

Today for my Friendship Post, I\u2019m exploring these themes in an awkward but life-giving encounter with a black woman in my apartment complex.<\/p>\n

\"P_Osheta\"<\/a>\u201cAre you a stay-at-home mom, too?\u201d The black neighbor woman interrupted my stumble down memory lane.<\/p>\n

\u201cYes, I am.\u201d I hesitated, irrationally afraid of this nice black woman. I guess when a black woman tries to befriend me, I see Zina, and the broken girl on the concrete begs me to not let her back in. I\u2019m scared of not being enough. I\u2019m scared of being reminded of how I\u2019ll never fit in.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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