{"id":4520,"date":"2016-10-07T02:39:00","date_gmt":"2016-10-07T02:39:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/shalominthecity.com\/?p=4520"},"modified":"2016-10-07T02:39:00","modified_gmt":"2016-10-07T02:39:00","slug":"day-5-of-subversive-joy-anchor-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/shalominthecity\/2016\/10\/day-5-of-subversive-joy-anchor-day\/","title":{"rendered":"Day 5 of Subversive Joy: Anchor Day"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

\"copy-of-31-days\"<\/p>\n

Today is Thursday, Joy Hack Day.<\/p>\n

This morning, I was having an \u201cI hate L.A. pity party\u201d I get these every so often\u2014 especially now that we\u2019re entering autumn and I\u2019m missing Boston. So, I declared that today is my Anchor Day, and I will do everything I can to find one thing I love about L.A.\u00a0 So, the first thing I did was turn on the podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin (which is like a booster shot of joy) because her sister, Elizabeth lives here and when she talks about L.A., I get the sense that she truly loves this area.\u00a0 Even though the episode was on, gift-giving, in the intro, Gretchen mentioned an earlier episode they did on reconnecting with old friends<\/a> and the potential for happiness.<\/p>\n

I love what Gretchen says in a \u201cGood Housekeeping\u201d a<\/a>rticle on the same topic:<\/p>\n

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Keeping these ties strong matters to happiness because, as research shows, a great way to boost happiness in the present is to remember happy times from the past. That\u2019s why photographs, scrapbooks, souvenirs, home movies, and other memory prompts are so precious and so worth the effort, despite our time-crunched days.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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I remember listening to that episode and when I turned it off I texted a good friend in New Orleans whom I hadn\u2019t seen in years. This dear friend was my first roommate when I moved to New Orleans, the first person to baby sit my son, my very best friend. We have this amazing picture of our kids lined up by age\u2014 there wasn\u2019t a year in the five years we were friends in New Orleans, that one of us wasn\u2019t pregnant.<\/p>\n

Talk to her, reminded me of everything I loved about New Orleans.<\/p>\n

We caught up, prayed with each other, and promised to stay in touch.A few weeks later, when she missed her flight home and was stuck L.A. last month, guess who she called for a place to stay\u2014 me!<\/p>\n

I remembered how much I loved rekindling that friendship, so I stopped the podcast and sent my best friend from Boston, who I noticed just had a baby a quick text:<\/p>\n

Hey! I hope this is still your number. I just wanted to say \u201chey\u201d and that I miss you.<\/p>\n

Hours later I got a text and within minutes we were on the phone talking about marriage, motherhood, faith, and transitioning well.\u00a0 She told me things she said she hadn\u2019t told anyone but the minute she heard my voice she just opened up.<\/p>\n

Man.\u00a0 That\u2019s the beauty of a solid friendship.\u00a0 This friend and I raised our children together in Boston, while our husbands worked on their Masters.\u00a0 It was nearly every day once of us would send a text, \u201cI\u2019m going to be at the park with my kids, wanna meet up\u201d and the other would reply, \u201cYes! I\u2019ll bring the Dunkin!\u2019<\/p>\n

I knew how she liked her coffee\u2014 that\u2019s friendship, y\u2019all.\u00a0 True, deep everlasting friendship.<\/p>\n

We split dinners when our husbands were working late and we didn\u2019t want to cook: I\u2019d bring the pasta, she\u2019d make the meat sauce. And she was the first friend I\u2019ve ever planned a getaway with. She was truly my best friend and a life-saver in a stressful season as a seminary widow.<\/p>\n

Then they moved away and even living an hour away, we kept our friendship up. This time meeting at a Dunkin\u2019 equidistant between Cambridge and Marblehead. Then driving to a park to catch up.<\/p>\n

As we talked, I realized that I loved Boston because I loved the people. I loved the friendships and memories we made. It gave me some hope because even though I don\u2019t have perfectly orange and red trees in my yard, I still have my sense of humor, love of coffee, and encouraging spirit. I brought me from Boston to L.A. and that\u2019s all I need to make new friends.<\/p>\n

But keep the old\u2026of course.<\/p>\n

So my Joy Hack today is to consider sending a text, messaging on Facebook, shooting off a quick email to reconnect.<\/p>\n

Say, \u201chey girl, hey\u201d to that friend who you\u2019ve lost touch with either due to season of life or moves.<\/p>\n

You just might end up talking for an hour and half, remembering all the reason you loved this friend, then spending the day with a goofy grin stuck on your face. You just might, like me, realize that transitioning is hard but not impossible.<\/p>\n

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See you tomorrow with my FMF with a Joy Flair.<\/p>\n

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~Osheta<\/p>\n

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