{"id":4655,"date":"2017-05-21T00:08:13","date_gmt":"2017-05-21T00:08:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/shalominthecity.com\/?p=4655"},"modified":"2017-05-21T00:08:13","modified_gmt":"2017-05-21T00:08:13","slug":"shalom-sistas-girls-night-out-group-discussion-guide","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/shalominthecity\/2017\/05\/shalom-sistas-girls-night-out-group-discussion-guide\/","title":{"rendered":"Shalom Sistas&#039; Night Out Group Discussion Guide"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-large wp-image-4657\" src=\"https:\/\/shalominthecity.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Everything-Everything2-1024x1024.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"900\" height=\"900\"><\/p>\n<p>Tonight, I\u2019m meeting up with two lovely Shalom Sistas to watch the new movie, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nicolayoon.com\/everything-everything-movie\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">\u201cEverything, Everything\u201d a movie adaption of the book of the same name by Nicola Yoon<\/a>. As you may remember, The Shalom Book Club discussed \u201cThe Sun is Also a Star\u201d by Yoon on the podcast and IT WAS AMAZING. Both the book and the discussion generated so much energy, the co-hosts and I thought it would be fun to encourage y\u2019all to plan a girls\u2019 night out to the movie and then maybe have a discussion afterwards of the ways we saw shalom in the movie.<\/p>\n<p>Well, here\u2019s my plan for group discussion tonight.\u00a0 I\u2019ll have this in a\u00a0 PDF in the \u201cPeace Out\u201d newsletter going out on Tuesday, so make sure you\u2019re signed up.<\/p>\n<p><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form --><\/p>\n<style type=\"text\/css\">\n\t#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; width:100%;}<br \/>\n\t\/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br \/>\n\t   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. *\/<br \/>\n<\/style>\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\">\n<form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"\/\/shalominthecity.us9.list-manage.com\/subscribe\/post?u=13beb763c962ff2b666c602b4&amp;id=8aaaee39e9\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Hey Shalom Sista! I Love Your Peacemaking Ways\u2014 Let\u2019s be Email Friends<\/label><br>\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"email\" name=\"EMAIL\" required=\"\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" placeholder=\"email address\"><br>\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\n<div style=\"position: absolute; left: -5000px;\"><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_13beb763c962ff2b666c602b4_8aaaee39e9\" type=\"text\" value=\"\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"clear\"><input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/form>\n<\/div>\n<p><!--End mc_embed_signup--><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-large wp-image-4656\" src=\"https:\/\/shalominthecity.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/everything-everything-poster-691x1024.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"691\" height=\"1024\"><\/p>\n<p>There are three Shalom Sista Manifesto points we see in the movie:<\/p>\n<h2>We Are Beloved<\/h2>\n<h2>We Will Choose Subversive Joy<\/h2>\n<h2>We Will Tell Better Stories<\/h2>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h1>We Are Beloved<\/h1>\n<p><strong>Quote from the Movie\/Book:<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cSpoiler alert: Love is worth everything. Everything.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>When we proclaim we are Beloved, we\u2019re owning two things. One: That God is love and his love holds all things together, we are held and made whole by the love of God.\u00a0 Two: That Jesus who knew his belovedness created goodness around him, even at great personal sacrifice. Maddy said this after she admitted her love for Olly\u2014 even though it came great personal sacrifice and pain for her, she still owned her belovedness in Olly\u2019s sight.<\/p>\n<p>What does it look like for you to own your belovedness to God AND want that for other so much that you sacrifice?<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h1>We Will Choose Subversive Joy<\/h1>\n<p><strong>Quote From the Movie\/Book<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Life is a gift. Don\u2019t forget to live it.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>When we choose subversive joy, it\u2019s a brave, defiant act against despair. For those of us surrounded by the overwhelming pain of the world, it feels almost irresponsible to choose joy\u2014 but joy is a weapon, we only have to choose to deploy it. So, we look for joy triggers when we\u2019re surrounded by pain triggers.<\/p>\n<p>All of Maddy\u2019s life is a pain trigger. For as long as she could remember she\u2019s been confined to her house because of her sickness, until she had a glimmer of joy in her relationship with Olly. She continued to choose that joy and follow it even though her mother believed her to be irresponsible and insensitive.<\/p>\n<p>What is something hard you\u2019re going through? Are you surrounded by pain triggers? Let\u2019s deactivate them by naming some things that bring us joy and make a plan to chase those in the coming weeks.<\/p>\n<p><strong>***** SPOILER*****<\/strong><\/p>\n<h1>We Will Tell Better Stories<\/h1>\n<p><strong>Quote from the Movie\/Book<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>My mother loved my father. He was the love of her life. And she loved my bother. He was the love of her life. And she loves me. I am the love of her life.\u00a0 The universe took my dad and brother away. For her , it was the BIG BANG in reverse\u2014everything that became nothing.<\/p>\n<p>I can understand that.<\/p>\n<p>Almost.<\/p>\n<p>I am trying to.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Telling better stories about the people who hurt us is HARD.\u00a0 No, I don\u2019t think I was clear enough it is H.A.R.D. But, it is the way of the cross. When Jesus was dying, instead of hurling insults and curses he cried out for their forgiveness.\u00a0 \u201cFather, forgive them for they know not what they do!\u201d Jesus told a better story, one that offered grace and the benefit of the doubt. One that gave room for redemption. A story that restored his executors and accusers of ther humanity. As Shalom Sistas, we are called to do so as well!\u00a0 Ugh\u2026 Jesus, seriously, yo?<\/p>\n<p>Maddy says this in the book and movie after she finds out her mother has been lying to her all her life about her sickness. She does not have SCID (Severe Combined Immunodeficiency), the disease forced Maddy to stay inside all her life, until another doctor contacts Maddy to offer a second, more startling opinion.\u00a0 For eighteen years, Maddy\u2019s mother lied to her. We find out it\u2019s because she suffered a great trauma when her husband and toddler son died in a car accident. Maddy, telling the story of her mom\u2019s betrayal starting with love and tragedy is an amazing example of telling a better story.<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s a conflict you\u2019re going through that you can diffuse, at least within your own heart by giving the other person a better story?<\/p>\n<p>Ok\u2026 here\u2019s what we\u2019re probably chatting about tonight\u2026 that is unless we spend the whole night sharing life stories and reminiscing about first crushes!<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>You are Everything, Everything to me Sistas,<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-4606\" src=\"https:\/\/shalominthecity.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/Osheta.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"306\" height=\"215\"><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"border-radius: 2px; text-indent: 20px; width: auto; padding: 0px 4px 0px 0px; text-align: center; font: bold 11px\/20px 'Helvetica Neue',Helvetica,sans-serif; color: #ffffff; background: #bd081c no-repeat scroll 3px 50% \/ 14px 14px; position: absolute; opacity: 1; z-index: 8675309; display: none; cursor: pointer;\">Save<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"border-radius: 2px; text-indent: 20px; width: auto; padding: 0px 4px 0px 0px; text-align: center; font: bold 11px\/20px 'Helvetica Neue',Helvetica,sans-serif; color: #ffffff; background: #bd081c no-repeat scroll 3px 50% \/ 14px 14px; position: absolute; opacity: 1; z-index: 8675309; display: none; cursor: pointer; top: 953px; left: 20px;\">Save<\/span><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tonight, I\u2019m meeting up with two lovely Shalom Sistas to watch the new movie, \u201cEverything, Everything\u201d a movie adaption of the book of the same name by Nicola Yoon. 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