previous post<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\nI believe that the strength of our faith in God can be directly measured by how often we are terrified. If you haven\u2019t had that nauseous, sinking feeling in your stomach lately, then maybe you have not been exercising your faith enough. And you are probably not growing.<\/p>\n
Fear is inevitably the thing that holds most of us back from reaching our potential, or from even trying. That\u2019s not really breaking news, or anything. There are volumes of self-help books devoted to this subject. But I believe it is a healthy exercise to visit this from time to time, to assess the trade-off between our fears and getting anything accomplished in our lives. I have discovered that fear,\u00a0goes hand in hand\u00a0with faith and fulfillment.<\/p>\n
I was not raised to face my fears or to even name them, for that matter. Instead, I grew up thinking that fear and discomfort were things that I should run away from. Predictably, I often ended up disappointed. My approach during my early adult years went like this: if I wanted something badly enough, I thought I should PRAY REALLY HARD and wait for it to happen. I honestly believed that if something was meant to be, then I really didn\u2019t have to do anything, but just wait for God to \u201cshow up.\u201d Instead of taking action, I would pray, fast, pray harder, wait on the Lord, read the bible looking for divine messages, and hope. Usually nothing happened, and I would chalk it up to \u201cnot God\u2019s will\u201d and try to move on to something else. I was very good at over-spiritualizing my disappointments, and of course it allowed me to avoid ever having to take responsibility for anything.<\/p>\n
Let me tell you, it is a tortuous state of being to have huge dreams and no tolerance for fear. So instead of pursuing a career in songwriting, I made the trade off to safety and comfort by doing things that were more familiar, but not necessarily aligned with my idea of God\u2019s dream for my life at the time. Frankly, ladies and gentlemen, to be brutally honest about it, I just didn\u2019t have the balls. That\u2019s right, you heard me. And after giving this a great deal of thought over my life, I believe that\u2019s exactly what God is going to tell me when I stand before him at His eternal throne on Judgment Day. Once His infinite engulfing stream of love has covered me over, so that I know I\u2019ll be okay no matter what, He\u2019ll look at me and say (in so many words), \u201cBrad, you have no idea what you missed out on, because you were so afraid of so many things. Remember that music thing?\u201d I\u2019ll cringe and go, \u201cNo. I mean, well, Yes.\u201d Then I\u2019ll try to change the subject. \u201cHey, that\u2019s a lovely beam of light shining over there! I don\u2019t think I\u2019ve ever seen that color before! Is that an angel or\u2026\u201d He\u2019ll cut me right off and stare me down, forcing me to admit the harsh truth about my behavior. But in a loving way, of course. I will have no choice, but to face the music. \u201cDo we have to bring that up right now?\u201d I\u2019ll ask. And He\u2019ll say. \u201cYes, I want to talk about it. Listen, Brad, it was you<\/span>, not Me. You didn\u2019t give me much to work with, you know? You did have a choice, my son. And you chose to indulge your fears.\u201d<\/p>\nI believe we\u2019ll all get a little spanking on that day. And maybe not for the things we think we should. We are all so horrified about being called out for our embarrassing sins, but what about all those times we just crapped out because we didn\u2019t have the guts to do something that would have made a big difference in our lives, or someone else\u2019s? I can imagine God\u2019s comments to the line-up of some of\u00a0the\u00a0friends and acquaintances I\u2019ve known over the years \u2013 His commentary on how we all fell short of our true potential in life:<\/p>\n
\u201cMy child, you could have accomplished tremendous things with your career!\u00a0 And the influence and impact you could have had for my kingdom! But you were so timid. You held back. Why?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\u201cSon, you could have paid a little more attention to your wife, and at least TRIED to learn how to put her before yourself, but you were so self-centered and terrified of intimacy! So much love was left out. You apparently didn\u2019t have the cajones for a real loving relationship.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\u201cYou? You could have stooped down a bit to see other people\u2019s points of view once in while. I was hoping that you would become a little more humble, and learn to listen, but you were so insecure with your fragile little ego that you had to be right all the time. Why were you so afraid of being vulnerable?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\nEtc. etc. etc.<\/p>\n
And why shouldn\u2019t we be scolded for holding back, being scared, not having enough faith in God, or in ourselves? I have no doubt that God wants us to face our fears head-on, to courageously deal with them, whether it\u2019s speaking in front of a crowd, or taking on more responsibility at work, or going off on that mission trip, or standing up to a peer. This is how you can grow, how you start to see God working in your life. If we are too caught up with the idea of being comfortable, then we\u2019ll never know what we are capable of. We will never know what God might have in store for us.<\/p>\n
Not long after I killed my songwriting career, by God\u2019s mercy, He took me through some other circuitous routes where I learned the lessons of how to overcome my fear and false pride and self-sabotaging behaviors. Getting married to a bold and intelligent woman was a big step in the right direction. In the process, I developed some new dreams \u2013 dreams for a successful career in business, and a full and loving family life. I started attacking my fears head on by taking on various assignments and jobs, increasing my responsibilities even when I wasn\u2019t sure if I could do it. But you know what? I did do it. Sure, there were bumps in the road every now and then, but with faith in God and support from my wife, I got up and kept going. The more I went out on a limb and tried new things, the more successes I had and the more confident I became about my capabilities. God honored and blessed my hard work. After a while I just got used to the idea of being nervous, anxious, and even terrified sometimes. It\u2019s nothing to be afraid of. It\u2019s part of taking risks. It\u2019s part of growing in my faith. It\u2019s part of living.<\/p>\n
\u00a0So go ahead and embrace those crazy dreams that God put in your head. Attack them, head on. He wants to show your potential \u2013 you are capable of way more than you think you are.<\/p>\n
\u00a0Go on, what are you afraid of?<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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