{"id":13042,"date":"2014-06-18T10:52:03","date_gmt":"2014-06-18T15:52:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/simchafisher\/?p=13042"},"modified":"2014-06-18T10:52:03","modified_gmt":"2014-06-18T15:52:03","slug":"dr-greg-popcak-on-marriage-after-baby","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/simchafisher\/2014\/06\/18\/dr-greg-popcak-on-marriage-after-baby\/","title":{"rendered":"Dr. Greg Popcak on marriage after baby"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

I\u2019m putting together an article for Our Sunday Visitor<\/em> about how marriages change after a baby is born \u2014 the good, the bad, and the things that need professional intervention (spiritual and otherwise). Dr. Greg Popcak gave me some wonderful information, and he has reprinted our entire interview on his blog<\/a>. Here\u2019s an excerpt:<\/p>\n

Simcha:\u00a0<\/strong>I assume you mostly work with Catholic couples. Is the strength of a couple\u2019s faith a good predictor for how well they can work through their problems? This sounds like a softball question \u2013 like, \u201cyes yes, of course when we are faithful, we will find life\u2019s burdens light\u201d \u2013 but I\u2019m really curious, because I know that a strong religious faith doesn\u2019t always translate easily or directly into good emotional health or strong relationships.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Dr. Greg:<\/strong>\u00a0You\u2019re right.\u00a0 In fact, many faithful couples who have more rigid role expectations may struggle more with birth than other couples.\u00a0 If you tend to be of the mindset the God made men to do X and women to do Y and never the twain shall meet, you may tend to fail to be there for each other, take on too much for yourself, and make excuses for behavior that would be otherwise inexcusable.<\/p>\n

Faith tends to be helpful when it is expressed, not as \u201crules to live by\u201d but rather as \u201ca call to be generous and understanding regarding each other\u2019s needs.\u201d\u00a0 Babies have a way of stretching your comfort zones.\u00a0 If your faith helps you deal with that and respond accordingly, both your faith and relationships will become healthier as you grow as a person.\u00a0 But if your faith is mainly about having hard and fast rules to live by, you might not adapt as well to the unpredictability that comes with post-baby life.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Good stuff, with lots of practical advice \u2014 things we learned the hard way, and are still working on learning. Read the rest here.<\/a><\/p>\n

I will post a link to the finished OSV article when it comes out; and also keep an eye out for Popcak\u2019s newest book, written with his wife:\u00a0Then Comes Baby:\u00a0 Surviving and Thriving in the First Three Years of Parenthood\u00a0<\/a> (Ave Maria Press\u2013Nov 2014).<\/em><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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