{"id":1917,"date":"2009-04-27T08:04:00","date_gmt":"2009-04-27T08:04:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/standingonmyhead\/2009\/04\/who-divorces-whom\/"},"modified":"2009-04-27T08:04:00","modified_gmt":"2009-04-27T08:04:00","slug":"who-divorces-whom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/standingonmyhead\/2009\/04\/who-divorces-whom.html","title":{"rendered":"Who Divorces Whom?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

This comment came in on my recent article at Inside Catholic:<\/p>\n

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Feminist Shere Hite once bragged that 91% of divorces were initiated by women. Even today over 2\/3rds of divorces are the choice of women and not because, as those who rely on sexist stereotypes insist, her man cheats on her or beats on her. Rather, all but a tiny number of women who present their man with divorce papers report that their reasons are such things as \u201cI fell out of love,\u201d \u201cI need to find myself,\u201d and \u201cI love him but I\u2019m not in love with him anymore.\u201d<\/span><\/div>\n

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Are these statistics true? I must admit, that in my years of ministry I have been involved in only about half a dozen marriage breakdowns. In each case the woman divorced the man. In each case, the man was not guilty of violence or infidelity in the classic sense. In one case the woman blamed him for an isolated case when he lost his temper, but his side of the story was that she nagged him, screamed at the kids, swore and raged the whole time, and he finally lost it.<\/div>\n
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Another woman said he engaged in a sexual act in which \u2018she felt like she was raped.\u2019 The man\u2019s side of the story was that she withheld sexual relations for two years and continually used it to taunt him and blackmail him for what she wanted. Others accused their men of vague and unprovable things like \u2019emotional violence\u2019 or \u2018verbal violence\u2019 or having an \u2019emotional affair.\u2019\u00a0<\/div>\n
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Do women initiate divorce more often than men? If this is so, I suppose women would argue that the man doesn\u2019t want a divorce when things go wrong because he wants to keep his little woman just where he wants her. However, the cases I have experienced do not bear this out.<\/div>\n
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I am sure there must be situations where a long suffering woman finally has to get out of a marriage to a monster for her own genuine safety and well being. Perhaps there are many such cases.\u00a0<\/div>\n
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However, my experience matches that of the commenter above. What about you?<\/div>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

This comment came in on my recent article at Inside Catholic: Feminist Shere Hite once bragged that 91% of divorces were initiated by women. Even today over 2\/3rds of divorces are the choice of women and not because, as those who rely on sexist stereotypes insist, her man cheats on her or beats on her. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":557,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1917","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\nWho Divorces Whom?<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"This comment came in on my recent article at Inside Catholic:Feminist Shere Hite once bragged that 91% of divorces were initiated by women. 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