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<\/a>\u201cMy fault, my fault, my most grievous fault\u201d is what we will soon say in the Confiteor. I know, I know. We will be blamed for dishing out the guilt and making people feel bad, but I think it is going to be refreshing\u2013and here\u2019s why:<\/p>\nOur whole culture is awash with the pop psychology counseling mentality which encourages us to blame somebody else for our problems. \u201cI have anger problems because my mother didn\u2019t breast feed me\u201d or \u201cI am not self assertive enough because my mother didn\u2019t breast feed me.\u201d Every problem we have, every fault in our character, every weakness or sin we blame on somebody else. I heard a girl once excuse her promiscuity with the claim, \u201cI sleep with lots of men because my father didn\u2019t love me and I\u2019m looking for a father\u2019s love.\u201d Or what about the guy who was unfaithful to his wife because, \u201cI\u2019m still looking for the perfect woman because my mother walked out on us when I was a kid.\u201d<\/p>\n
One of the side effects of this victim culture is that, because we blame other people for our problems and weaknesses, we also think that somebody else should solve our problems for us. There\u2019s a logic to it: My problems were caused by somebody else. Somebody else should solve them for me. They\u2019re not my responsibility. Thus the entitlement culture goes with the victim mentality. Somebody owes me a living. Somebody owes me solutions to my problems. Somebody else will bail me out.<\/p>\n
The Confiteor is a refreshing antidote to the victim-entitlement poison. I beat my breast and say, \u201cMy fault, my fault, my most grievous fault\u201d and as I do I take responsibility for myself in a most solemn threefold vow of acknowledgement. I take the blame. I take the responsibility. I take the problem as my own. This is one of the most mature things anybody can do in life\u2013to take responsibility. To decide to do something about the problem, and if nothing can be done about it, then to bear the suffering with dignity and silence. This is not only mature, but it is a little touch of the God image in each of us. When I pick up the responsibility I am engaging my will and deciding that I am going to be involved. Me and nobody else but me.<\/p>\n
Furthermore\u2013let\u2019s be even more radical and pick up other people\u2019s trash. In other words, instead of being the poor little spoiled brat victim. Why don\u2019t we be adult and clean up somebody else\u2019s room? What I mean to say is that instead of blaming other people for our problems why don\u2019t we not only take responsibility for our own sins and weaknesses and problems and failures, but why don\u2019t we take responsibility for other\u2019s as well?\u00a0Continue Reading<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"\u201cMy fault, my fault, my most grievous fault\u201d is what we will soon say in the Confiteor. I know, I know. We will be blamed for dishing out the guilt and making people feel bad, but I think it is going to be refreshing\u2013and here\u2019s why: Our whole culture is awash with the pop psychology […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":557,"featured_media":20321,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20320","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n
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<\/a>\u201cMy fault, my fault, my most grievous fault\u201d is what we will soon say in the Confiteor. I know, I know. We will be blamed for dishing out the guilt and making people feel bad, but I think it is going to be refreshing\u2013and here\u2019s why:<\/p>\n