{"id":26001,"date":"2011-03-01T16:12:11","date_gmt":"2011-03-01T16:12:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/community\/theanchoress\/?p=26001"},"modified":"2017-03-08T23:59:58","modified_gmt":"2017-03-08T23:59:58","slug":"the-hate-that-feels-like-love-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/theanchoress\/2011\/03\/01\/the-hate-that-feels-like-love-2\/","title":{"rendered":"The Hate that Feels like Love"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

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My Tuesday column<\/strong> this week was inspired by Fox News\u2019 Mike Tobin\u2019s thoughts on hate<\/strong><\/a> as he has covered the demonstrations in Wisconsin:<\/p>\n

One thing I think should make clear \u2013 the people coming after us from every live shot here, these people hate,\u201d Tobin said. \u201cThese are people who don\u2019t respect diverse viewpoints . . .Now, I am not saying that\u2019s all of the people. Those are the people that come here and heckle and try to disrupt things. I look in their eyes \u2013 there is hate in their eyes. They don\u2019t want to hear any kind of viewpoint that is different from their own. That\u2019s why they do what they do. . . . A teacher was giving me the business yesterday, and the teacher told me she hates me because it makes her feel good<\/em>\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

As I write at First Things<\/a>:<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the surface, attaching oneself to a hate-collective seems a safe way to belong. One feels invited to the party; one no longer has to think for oneself, or worry about individual appearances or instincts. To continue to fit-in, to feel as if you were truly loved, all one needs to do is continue to hate\u2014and that not even willingly.<\/p>\n

This hate that feels like wide-open love is paradoxically limiting and self-defeating. Once hatred has become one\u2019s social vehicle of choice, the travel options become limited: either stay the course and wear the peripheral blinders or attempt to break free and risk the very real possibility of being altogether ditched.<\/p>\n

Regardless of whether one hates a Republican governor or a pro-abortion president or Hollywood or \u201cfundamentalism\u201d or \u201cthe system\u201d or even a sports team, if one\u2019s sense of belonging depends on hatred, then second-thoughts will flee and stagnation will follow. The only way to re-energize and to delay the inevitable endgame described by Enright as \u201cdestruction, discouragement, and hopelessness\u201d is to find a new hate to love.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Hope you\u2019ll<\/strong> read the whole thing<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

My Tuesday column this week was inspired by Fox News\u2019 Mike Tobin\u2019s thoughts on hate as he has covered the demonstrations in Wisconsin: One thing I think should make clear \u2013 the people coming after us from every live shot here, these people hate,\u201d Tobin said. \u201cThese are people who don\u2019t respect diverse viewpoints . 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