My birth mother and I had our rough times,<\/strong> and they\u2019re not worth expounding on, now. But she was an interesting person. A child of the depression (she had me kinda late in life \u2013 I\u2019ve always been a surprise in one way or another), and of deaf-mute parents, she grew up an only child who was given many responsibilities at an early age. She was the polar opposite of the generation of children coming up, whose parents seem intent on infantilizing them and not \u201cburdening\u201d them with cares. Let no day of our darlings be the slightest bit dark, seems to be the Grand Theme of Parenting for the 21st century.<\/p>\nAnyway, my birth mother \u2013 let\u2019s call her Alice, because she always liked that name \u2013 was shuttled around from parents to grandparents to willing aunties, pretty much at the whim of her fun-loving, hard-partying parents. Don\u2019t be fooled, just \u2019cause some folks can\u2019t hear or speak, don\u2019t think they can\u2019t trash a joint and start a brawl for the sheer fun of it. My experience at one of my grandparent\u2019s \u201cquiet\u201d parties remains one of the most raucous, slightly terrifying memories of my childhood. I recall a man tumbling head first into the snow and giggling, laying back and cradling a bottle of something aged and warming as he began to \u201csing\u201d in a most God-awful voice, and two jolly men taking a sledgehammer to one of the walls in our small house, because my mother had once mentioned to them that she wished she had a built-in bookcase. Under the spell of the poteen, starting up such a project in the wee small hours seemed perfectly logical, and generous, to them.<\/p>\n
We did get the bookcase, eventually, out of necessity. I mean\u2026we didn\u2019t have a wall, anymore\u2026<\/p>\n
Growing up, little Alice lived poor with her parents<\/strong> \u2013 in a cold-water flat in Coney Island \u2013 or slightly better-off with the grandmother, a German woman who had been disowned by her well-off family for daring to marry a hardscrabble, fast-talking, kinda-not-really-respectable shanty Irishman who always had something cooking, but never made a dime. Caught between a boozy, cheerful but silent world and the grim-but-educated alternative, Alice became one of those quintessentially Irish loudmouths who \u201cneeded her noise\u201d and who adored multi-syllabic pronouncements so much that she seemed to spit them out in capital letters. As a kid, I would listen to her speak and imagine the words surrounding her head in a bubble, as in a cartoon, and they seemed to me to spark and burst and careen around the room. She would never use abbreviations or short-cuts. If she sent me to the store for a Nabisco product, I was told to buy the cookies from the NATIONAL BISCUIT COMPANY. She despised the INTERNAL REVENUE SERVICE and had friends in the NATIONAL ASSOCIATION FOR THE ADVANCEMENT OF COLORED PEOPLE. She knew nothing from ABC, NBC or CBS -why call them that when the COLUMBIA BROADCASTING SYSTEM just sounded so much better!<\/p>\nFrom her mouth, words became alive \u2013 they were her playthings, and when you consider the silence and non-verbal aspects of her early childhood, that\u2019s not really surprising.<\/p>\n
She gave me that \u2013 the love of words \u2013 of the very sound<\/em> of words \u2013 the ability to take delight in a well-turned phrase or a crafty sentence, the ability to sense something beyond vowels and consonants, something that sounds like real music and gives almost as much delight. Drunk or sober, angry or gleeful, the stuff that poured from her mouth would routinely stop me in my tracks for the sheer glory of her word usage. I revelled in her immense vocabulary, her flawless diction. If some surprising, or obscene, words occasionally found their way into her soliliquies, even those were rendered inoffensive thanks to the plucky, affectionate way she inserted them.<\/p>\nShe was very good at picking up other languages<\/strong>, too, which I always found fascinating. Like a sponge, she seemed to absorb the languages of those around her. I suspect that having grown up, as it were, \u201cbi-lingual\u201d \u2013 her second language being sign language (or perhaps that was her first) she had a knack for translation and application. Her dream-job, she once confessed to me, would have been working as a translator at the UNITED NATIONS (not, of course, the UN). I can see where that would have seemed a glorious vocation, to her.<\/p>\nShe didn\u2019t give me my faith \u2013 or not wholly, anyway \u2013 that came by way of herself, plus a grandmother, some nuns, the BVM (believe me, she grabbed me by the hand and led me to Christ) and even via my husband. The best thing Alice ever did for me, faith-wise was to leave me alone when I abandoned it, to let me find my way back on my own. I\u2019ve always been grateful to her for that, and I managed to thank her for it, before she died. I thanked her, too, for not stopping me when I deemed it in my best interest to leave home at an early age. It was the right call.<\/p>\n
She was smart; not well-educated, but world-smart and people-smart. She loved to read but I always gathered that her books were bought less for entertainment value than for the culling of new words and phrases, for new ways in which to celebrate and employ human language and to endlessly, endlessly use her tongue.<\/p>\n
I am not much of a speaker, myself.<\/strong> As a kid I had a stammer that took years to get over, and even now, if I am particularly exhausted, that will return. While I can certainly talk a blue-streak around friends, among strangers I am almost morbidly silent and unwilling to draw attention to myself. But I do love words \u2013 I love to read them, write them, hear them \u2013 speak them, if I feel safe. I love moving through a New York City street and hearing the rumble of words spewing forth from a thousand different voices. I love visiting my husband\u2019s Italian relatives and hearing the odd pidgeon-talk they (second generation Sicilians) use amongst themselves, a weird mixture of Italian and Yiddish and New Yorkese. I love how, when they get excited, they speak to me in an English whose syntax is otherworldly. I love sitting in a restaurant and hearing Hindu or Spanish or French or Urdu at the next table; even though I don\u2019t understand a word of it, I find I often comprehend the inflection, the humor or urgency or sadness beneath the words, and that makes me feel connected to humanity in a chummy way. It reminds me that beyond our differences of expression and culture, our life-experiences are, for the most part, pretty similar. We love, we celebrate, we mourne, we sneer, we harangue\u2026(what\u2019s more fun to listen to than a Asian-Indian mother giving her teenager a tongue-lashing? Almost nothing!) I may prefer, in the end, to hear it all in what Churchill called, \u201cthat noble thing, the English language,\u201d but I believe my mother gave me an appreciation for the spoken word (and for tones and structure and diction) that transcends a narrow regard.<\/p>\nBefore she died, I wrote Alice a note, thanking her for all the words I\u2019d received from her, the stupid ones, the slurred ones, the brilliant ones. \u201cWithout intention, without realizing it, you have handed me my profession on a platter \u2013 amid all the coal mined in our time together, there have been these diamonds, and I will not forget.\u201d<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t have to have a perfect relationship<\/strong> with a parent in order to find something for which to be grateful, even if you are only grateful for a bad example which kept you on a straighter path. Today, I think I will lift a foamy Guinness to my birth-mother, Alice the Tonguerunner. Alice the Downshouter, Alice the Thesaurus, Alice the Wordgleaner.<\/p>\nThanks, Mom. And Happy Mother\u2019s Day.<\/p>\n
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\n\u201cTHAT MUST BE DISCONCERTING FOR YOU<\/em>\u201c<\/strong>
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\nEvery once in a while, a public figure blips across my radar,<\/strong> and when I see him I am reminded of my birth-father, for there is a very strong physical resemblance between the two men. I noted it today to a friend who knows my background and my \u201cstory.\u201d<\/p>\n\u201cWhenever I see him,\u201d I wrote, \u201cit\u2019s like looking at my father.\u201d<\/p>\n
My friend wrote back, \u201cthat must be disconcerting for you.\u201d<\/p>\n
I thought about that for a while and realized, no, seeing this public figure does not cause me distress, rather it makes me feel very badly for my father.<\/p>\n
My \u201cstory\u201d is my own,<\/strong> and it is one I am disinclined to share, partly because I abhor the sort of \u201cperpetual victim\u201d mentality in which others who have endured similar stress sometimes wrap themselves. Perhaps it is the only way they can cope, and if so, I won\u2019t gainsay it but I have no patience for the \u201cI am a survivor, let me tell you about my pain\u201d mentality in my own life. I have never wanted a harrowing childhood ordeal to be the thing that defined me.<\/p>\nTo my way of thinking, if you clutch all of that to your breast and never let go, you are willingly stunting yourself and your potential. You are selling yourself short by establishing that all you are, or will ever be, is a wounded child. I am certainly not unsympathetic, but my pragmatism compels me to move on. Aside from mentioning once or twice that I left home at a young age due to \u201ca matter of familial tyranny,\u201d or that a psychopathic patriarch held some sway over my early life, I have never felt remotely interested in sharing that part of my personal life on this site, and indeed, you\u2019ll get no scintillating (or searing<\/em>, depending on your heart and disposition) details from this girl, today. Or ever.<\/p>\nBut having pondered my friend\u2019s empathetic question, I will write about some of the odd lingering after-effects of abuse that I have observed.<\/p>\n
There is a strange displacement<\/strong> that occurs within a child who has endured sexual abuse by a parent. There is the dissociative element, of course. A child overwhelmed by what is happening to him or her tends to find a safe spot somewhere inside herself, from which she can almost \u201cwatch\u201d the abuse, as though it is happening to someone else. And there are recurring images that become meaningful to such a child in ways that others would never consider. When I think back on that time in my life, I see images of doorways. The doorway through which I would interiorly pray someone \u2013 anyone \u2013 would enter, to stop the terrible chaos surrounding me\u2026the doorway I watched while cringing beneath my sheets and blankets, hoping no shadows would be moving within the dim light and heading my way.<\/p>\nThe corner moulding of a doorway means little to most people. To me, it holds out hope of rescue, or fear of ruin.<\/p>\n
But it is the displacement that is interesting to me, and my friend\u2019s inquiry. Disconcerting?<\/em><\/p>\nThis public figure we\u2019re talking about is an indisputably brilliant but rather controversial fellow. There is a chance, a slim one, that his striking resemblance to my father is more than coincidental; they may actually be distant and completely uncharted cousins. And perhaps that fact \u2013 that this successful man might be a relative to that unsuccessful man \u2013 is why I feel so badly for my father, and what demonstrates so keenly to me the displacement I am thinking about tonight.<\/p>\n
My birth-father,<\/strong> anonymous and unremarkable to the world, was in many ways a man as brilliant as this public man. He was a phenomenal musician who could play numerous instruments, although he never had a lesson and could not read a note of music. He could draw out impressive building designs and mechanical designs, and engines. He invented things. Self-educated and rhetorically gifted, he could argue persuasively on politics and religion (he was against both). He had both the charisma and brains necessary to successfully lead efforts to unionize certain groups. He could run meetings according to Roberts Rule of Order and hold a room spellbound as he plowed through parlimentary procedures in such a way as to make everyone in the room feel enlarged, bouyed-up and important. He watched the nightly news and discussed it with me, and introduced me to critical thinking. A liberal Democrat at a time when that actually meant the embrasure of classical liberal standards, he was capable of looking at larger pictures, and so despite his admiration for Adlai Stephenson, he voted for Ike. Twice.<\/p>\nHe took me fishing, and bowling. He brought me stuffed animals when I was sick. He was the only person, in my memory at least, who ever read to me a bedtime story, and the delicious sense of safety, singularity and undivided attention in those moments has kept those obscure stories affectionately alive inside me, all these years later.<\/p>\n
And yet, he was a monster<\/strong> about whom \u2013 in past times of my life \u2013 I have written countless scenarios wherein I slay him, where I slip a stiletto into his sternum and pierce his terrible, dark heart. Or where I take a hatchet to his huge, brilliant and psychotic brain, or where I go to the cemetary carrying a long flowerbox which opens to reveal a shotgun, meant to shoot downward, into the grass, past the dirt and wood, to achieve penetration upon his corpse, and make sure that he is finally, really dead.<\/p>\nThe rare nightmare about him will wake me up gasping for air, momentarily unsure about the current status of his physical existance.<\/p>\n
The displacement of one who has endured the sexual abuse of a parent is a curious one, because it is not a banishment to a lonely island or a teeming crowd. Rather, it involves planting two feet on either side of a chasm and staring down into a deep fault-line you know you neither deserve (nor want) to fall into, and from which there may be no rescue if you do. \u201cGood Daddy\u201d is on one side, \u201cBad Daddy\u201d is on the other, and the chasm will never completely close.<\/p>\n
It is the love,<\/strong> of course, that complicates all of this, that gives this state-of-being that Jeckyll and Hyde vibe. You justifiably hate your parent for all the harm he did you, but you also \u2013 and justifiably \u2013 love him because when he was not in his madness, he did do good and loving things. He did<\/em> nurture you. This dichotomy of love and loathing forces the compassion and empathy you feel for your terribly damaged and ultimately pathetic parent to go to war with your moral outrage. It makes the chasm-straddle a lifetime inclination, even after you have confronted the parent, and gotten your tearful apology, and even after you have forgiven.<\/p>\nI do not know very much about my father\u2019s family or his early life, except that his own father died when he was still a child, and \u2013 it being the depression \u2013 he had to leave school in order to find work to help his mother. I know that even in his later years, the subject of his father\u2019s death would distress him, and he always spoke of his deep sense of loss in being denied a formal education, a gift he denied his own children, by the way, even though all of us fervently wished to study and learn. It was the small spiteful part of his hurt, I think, that rendered him incapable of allowing his children to possess the very thing for which he, himself, so ardently longed.<\/p>\n
As a mother who wants every good thing for her children, I cannot understand how he could deny us. As a witness to his own crippled ambitions, perhaps comprehension dawns, but such comprehension can never make it okay. I am an odd bird, and his refusal to allow me an education (and in a household such as ours, he held enormous psychological sway over what all of us could and could not do) has in many ways been the deepest and most debilitating injury he inflicted. Sexual molestation of children is about asserting power and it is so rooted in real sickness<\/em> of the mind and spirit that one may finally look at it and, while excusing nothing, come to understand that the afflictor was himself afflicted. But the other \u2013 the smallness of spirit, the spitefulness, the seeming intent to draw his own children down into his spacious hell of regret \u2013 that we might remain there and live it with him \u2013 that I will never understand.<\/p>\nUnsurprisingly, in my adolescent years<\/strong> I was a bit of an insomniac; being awake was much prefered to closing the eyes and letting down the guard. My father would turn in early. Sometimes, in his sleep, he would weep outloud, sobbing and wailing \u2013 a keening of utter heartbreak and longing, and I would wonder \u2013 is that for your own father, or for your own unrealized dreams? Are you weeping for your sense of loss, or your sense of sin? <\/em><\/p>\nSometimes, when he cried, I would pray for him. But I would never wake him up and release him from the torment, oh no. I wasn\u2019t getting that close to his bed.<\/p>\n
Either way, his somnolent tears would induce my sympathy, and looking back on it, I am glad to realize I could \u2013 even then \u2013 feel sympathy for my father, even as I cringed in my corner. It tells me that despite all the things he took, he never fully had me<\/em>, he never possessed me at my core, where grace did still abide.<\/p>\nCreatures, behold your Creator: He doesn\u2019t beckon with a kingly nod, with silence and guards and gravity. He comes as a child, lying in a manger \u2013 in the very thing the animals eat from \u2013 and He offers you Himself for your own food, your own nourishment and strength. We are loved into being by One who is All Good. Flickers from hell may singe and scar, but they will never consume us. Be not<\/em> disconcerted.<\/p>\nThese days, when I see a picture of the public figure who looks so very much like my birth father, I stare at the photo and remember him, and think of all the things he could have been, given half the chance, and all the things he was, and I think to myself, \u201coh, Daddy. You poor man. You miserable, fucked-up bastard. You pathetic monster. You poor, poor man.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\nThen I turn the page.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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