{"id":2967,"date":"2015-12-04T12:00:07","date_gmt":"2015-12-04T17:00:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/theatheistrabbi\/?p=2967"},"modified":"2015-12-04T12:00:07","modified_gmt":"2015-12-04T17:00:07","slug":"prayer-shaming-jewish-style","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/theatheistrabbi\/2015\/12\/prayer-shaming-jewish-style.html","title":{"rendered":"Prayer-Shaming, Jewish Style"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

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Well it seems that the topic of the day is \u201cprayer-shaming,\u201d prompted by yesterday\u2019s New York Daily News front page headline about the San Bernardino shooting<\/a>. It made the important point that maybe some people should stop praying so much and actually do something.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve actually thought about \u201cprayer-shaming\u201d before, but the other way around. In the Jewish community I often feel that \u201cprayer-shaming\u201d is not directed toward those who pray, but to those who do not.<\/p>\n

Michael Knopf, one of \u201cAmerica\u2019s Most Inspiring Rabbis,\u201d recently asked in The Times of Israel, \u201cWhy Should I Pray if I Don\u2019t Believe in God?\u201d<\/a>:<\/p>\n

For many of us, myself included, prayer is one of the most challenging aspects of Judaism. After all, to whom or what, exactly, are we praying? What, if anything, can that entity actually do about the things for which we\u2019re praying? And of what benefit is praying by reading from a book that is filled with hundreds of pages of words that are not ours and that are written in a foreign language? What are we to do with all the prayerbook\u2019s God-language -especially since studies estimate that between half and two-thirds of Jews are agnostic or atheist, and most of the rest of us reject the God-idea described by classical theology \u2013 and the God of the prayerbook is so evocative of the God-idea most of us spurn?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

He offers us this:<\/p>\n

\u2026[W]e must first dispel the biggest myth about Jewish prayer, that its purpose is, primarily, to persuade God to intervene in our lives and world, even, if necessary, by supernatural means.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The vast majority of Jews who pray every day are Orthodox. I think that a great number of them would be surprised to learn that what they believe about prayer is a myth.<\/p>\n

Perhaps Knopf\u2019s agenda is to change this. If he can inspire all of us non-believing Jews to start regularly praying, maybe we will soon outnumber Orthodox Jewish worshippers!<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the path to meaningful prayer that he illuminates for atheists:<\/p>\n

The siddur [prayer book] invites us to use God \u2013 the exemplar of love, justice, experience, and compassion \u2013 as the yardstick to measure our lives.<\/p>\n

\u2026So, for example, when one recites the prayerbooks\u2019 words pote\u2019ah et yadekha u\u2019masbi\u2019a l\u2019khol chai ratzon, that God opens God\u2019s hand and with love sustains all the living, that mirror asks, \u201cHave you done enough to feed the hungry?\u201d When one says oseh ha-shalom, that God is the maker of peace, that mirror asks, \u201cHave you been working on peace inside yourself? How about within your household? Your community? What have you done to fulfill the prophetic vision that \u2018Nation will not lift up sword against nation?\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

\u2026True, the prayers of the siddur are written as statements we make to God. But they are in actuality intended to be statements we make about God to ourselves, forcing us to see ourselves in this mirror of the holy.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

If you know Hebrew you might have noticed that Knopf himself is uncomfortable enough with his own cherry-picked text that he\u2019s mistranslated it. A more accurate reading is, \u201cYou open your hands to all, satisfying the desire of every living thing.\u201d It\u2019s from Psalm 145:16.<\/p>\n

Even if there is a God, this sentence is plainly untrue. But since we\u2019re being asked to make the prayers a mirror, a Knopfian reading might yield this interpretation:\u00a0\u201cLet\u2019s all open our hands to attempt to satisfy the needs of every living thing.\u201d<\/p>\n

I suppose he just loves Jewish tradition too much to just say that.<\/p>\n

The rabbi\u00a0continues by showing us the trick to how prayer can work even if you don\u2019t believe in God:<\/p>\n

\u2026 [Y]ou don\u2019t need to believe in God<\/strong> [his emphasis] in order for prayer to work. Though the rabbis who wrote the Siddur believed in the existence of the God they were describing, those of us who struggle with belief can just as easily see the God of the siddur as a personification of our tradition\u2019s highest human ideals. And whether you are a believer or a doubter, viewing yourself in the light of this God idea can push you to clarify your highest hopes, discover your true aspirations, feel the pains you regularly ignore, and recall the longings you so often forget.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Non-believers do not require a personification of our ideals to serve as an \u201cexemplar of love, justice, experience, and compassion.\u201d<\/p>\n

In fact, we think that the anthropomorphization of \u201chuman ideals\u201d into a super-being is quite a bad suggestion. Actual humans don\u2019t handle metaphorical personification very well. And this is not just any personification. This is the personification of our ideals into \u201cGod,\u201d a character laden with so many different and contradictory personas and motivations that \u201cmultiple personality disorder\u201d doesn\u2019t quite do him justice.<\/p>\n

There are so many incongruous understandings of \u201cGod\u201d that pretty much anything can be done in God\u2019s name. This is why lovely idealists like Knopf and less lovely ideologues like Ted Cruz are constantly battling over what the Lord really demands.<\/p>\n

Serious Secular Humanists give a great deal of thought to which\u00a0values and ideals should guide our behavior. We identify them through reasoning and other human considerations, not through ritualistic recitations of ancient formulations re-interpreted in ways that their authors would have found laughable.\u00a0This personification business adds a layer of complication that non-believers reject for good reason. Personally, I would rather talk about the actual ideals.<\/p>\n

So to Knopf \u2013 and all the other rabbis who are desperately trying to salvage Jewish prayer for the non-believer \u2013 may I respectfully request that you please knock it off. All the prayer-shaming in the world is not going convince us that talking or chanting to an imaginary deity, especially one as problematic as \u201cGod,\u201d will make us better people.<\/p>\n

But hey, if it works for you then go for it.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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