{"id":694,"date":"2010-10-06T20:10:00","date_gmt":"2010-10-06T20:10:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/theatheistrabbi\/2010\/10\/orthodox-homophobia-causes-pain-but-for-whom-2.html"},"modified":"2010-10-06T20:10:00","modified_gmt":"2010-10-06T20:10:00","slug":"orthodox-homophobia-causes-pain-but-for-whom-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/theatheistrabbi\/2010\/10\/orthodox-homophobia-causes-pain-but-for-whom-2.html","title":{"rendered":"Orthodox Homophobia Causes Pain – But For Whom?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>
When the New Jersey Jewish Standard<\/i><\/a> ran a same-sex wedding announcement, its editors were unprepared for the attack from the right.\u00a0 Once it came, their sense of journalistic integrity led them to publish this:<\/span><\/div>\n
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We set off a firestorm last week by publishing a same-sex couple\u2019s announcement of their intent to marry\u2026. A group of rabbis\u2026 within the traditional\/Orthodox community\u2026 made us aware that publication of the announcement caused pain and consternation, and we apologize for any pain we may have caused\u2026. We have decided, therefore, since this is such a divisive issue, not to run such announcements in the future.<\/span><\/div>\n
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Then the rest of the Jewish community, that is to say the saner part of the community, hit back.\u00a0 So they then published this:<\/span><\/div>\n
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We ran the wedding announcement because we felt, as a community newspaper, that it was our job to serve the entire community \u2014 something we have been doing for 80 years. We did not expect the heated response we got, and \u2014 in truth \u2014 we believe now that we may have acted too quickly in issuing the follow-up statement, responding only to one segment of the community\u2026. We urge everyone to take a step back and reflect on what this series of events has taught us about the community we care so much about, and about the steps we must take to move forward together.<\/span><\/div>\n
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I can tell you very easily what can be learned from this series of events.\u00a0 Orthodox Judaism, which views itself as the only legitimate form of Judaism, will not tolerate the suggestion that there are other legitimate ways of being Jewish.<\/span><\/div>\n
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What is it exactly that caused them \u201cpain and consternation?\u201d\u00a0 Was it the mere knowledge that two gay people fell in love and are getting married?\u00a0 Oh boo-hoo.\u00a0 Someone disagrees with them and they\u2019re in pain.<\/span><\/div>\n
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This isn\u2019t about their pain.\u00a0 It\u2019s about power, control and legitimacy.\u00a0 Pain is the result of losing your partner of thirty years and being evicted from the home you once shared because you couldn\u2019t get married.\u00a0 Pain is the result of being denied entry into the hospital room of your ailing lover.<\/span><\/div>\n
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What these Orthodox Jews are feeling is actually resentment.\u00a0 That is a result of people not giving two hoots about their desire to be the sole arbiters of what is legitimately Jewish.\u00a0 It is also the result of realizing that the other Jews are uninterested in their many primitive ideas.\u00a0 They\u2019ve lost their power over the rest of us.\u00a0 We know they\u2019re wrong and we don\u2019t care what they have to say.<\/span><\/div>\n
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And that gives me pleasure.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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