{"id":5624,"date":"2013-11-03T08:48:30","date_gmt":"2013-11-03T16:48:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/thedudeabides\/?p=5624"},"modified":"2015-03-10T10:02:52","modified_gmt":"2015-03-10T17:02:52","slug":"pastrix-bonus","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/thedudeabides\/2013\/11\/03\/pastrix-bonus\/","title":{"rendered":"PASTRIX Bonus"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

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The curse of a journalist is never having enough room for everything in one piece<\/a>. It\u2019s an art of subtraction that often is a painful but necessary practice.<\/p>\n

So here\u2019s something Nadia<\/a> said that I wanted to share but didn\u2019t have space for in the original column. After her reading\/riffing at All Saints last week, during the Q&A someone asked her about grief.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m coming up on the one-year anniversary of my father\u2019s death<\/a> (I loved him more than life itself) and what Nadia said is<\/p>\n

1) true and<\/p>\n

2) actually helpful.<\/p>\n

Nadia answered:<\/p>\n

I have nothing other than grief is such a such a disfiguring process. And speed it up or deny that that\u2019s true is to not honor it. And there is no way through but through. Sometimes all that somebody needs to is someone to go through it with them. Not to give them platitudes, not to try to speed it up. That\u2019s it. That\u2019s all I got. There is no magic there. It just sucks.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

YES IT DOES.<\/p>\n

A few minutes before that, while talking about something else, she also said the following, which will stay with me a long time, grief, grieving or not.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m almost always stricken by an experience of God. Broken into a million pieces and put back together.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Amen, sister.<\/p>\n

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