you <\/em>did a few months ago. I mean, why wouldn\u2019t they? They haven\u2019t talked about it in front of you or behind your back, not even once. Why wouldn\u2019t the whole world be concerned with your minor indiscretion? Why wouldn\u2019t the world still be obsessed with you many moons later?<\/p>\nAnd then it happens.<\/p>\n
You begin creating an elephant right in the middle of the room. What has otherwise been a pleasant and enjoyable gathering is about to have a grenade launched and detonated with the shrapnel marring everyone. And you\u2019re not even throwing the grenade and then walking away. You\u2019re actually throwing the grenade and then scooting close to it so you can examine the markings on the outside and the pin on the floor when it explodes.<\/p>\n
They are talking about me! <\/em>The feet are formed.<\/p>\nDid you see the way she looked at me?! <\/em>The tail whips lazily in the stale air.<\/p>\nI know they are thinking about <\/em>it too. <\/em>The core takes shape, leathery, saggy, gray, tough.<\/p>\nI need to address this\u2014to talk about it\u2014clear the air. <\/em>Is that a trunk?<\/p>\nThey really need to hear my side of the story. <\/em>One ear flaps to and fro.<\/p>\nIt would be best if they heard it from me and not someone else. <\/em>The other begins to rustle in the breeze.<\/p>\nIs it hot in here? It\u2019s so awkward right now. <\/em>Two wise eyes look around the room.<\/p>\nI can\u2019t take it anymore. I\u2019m about to burst<\/em>. And then the elephant begins to walk, and stomp, and spit, and snort, and wreck the entire room. Let me guess: once you finally decided to speak up and make reference to said elephant in the middle of said room, things only got worse. Am I right?<\/p>\nBecause you<\/em>, dear friend, you<\/em> have created this elephant in the middle of the room with your narcissism and then sadistically set it loose upon innocent bystanders in order to feel better about yourself; subconsciously, of course.<\/p>\nI am convinced that the overwhelming majority of elephants inhabiting rooms these days are nothing more than simple, imaginary field mice. You might think that there was an epidemic of house-dwelling elephants rather than a culture so self-absorbed and self-obsessed that we cannot imagine not <\/em>being at the center of things.<\/p>\nI write all of this as someone who has been there, as someone who is afflicted with the disease of \u201cfoot-in-mouth.\u201d My symptoms are only two: open mouth. Insert foot. That is what happens when I delude myself with the belief that elephants have taken residence in my living room.<\/p>\n
Because let\u2019s be honest, shall we? Everyone in the world has better things to do than to sit around and stew in the mess of your dysfunction. Even though you may think of nothing else, even if your every waking second is occupied by reminiscing on this single topic, the world has gone on turning, people have been living their lives, and your issue has been largely forgotten. Until or unless, of course, you drag the bloody, mangled corpse onto the oriental rug and demand everyone give it a gander.<\/p>\n
My five-year-old loves to play with shadows. The bigger the shadow puppet the better. How does one make a shadow puppet? In case you have forgotten over decades of your childhood-repressing adulthood, the way to make a shadow puppet is to place your hand in the beam of a flashlight or similar source and see the shadow created on the wall. The 5-foot tall bunny rabbit on the wall is nothing more than the tiny hand of a sweet 5-year-old.<\/p>\n
Those who seek elephants in rooms are professional shadow puppeteers. The tiny creature, hidden to all but the well-trained eye, is magnified to a hundred times its usual size through the beam of light emanating for your discontent and egomania.<\/p>\n
Do you want to know the truth? The reality here is rather simple and I hope you let it sink in and affect your innermost core: as you have been on safari for elephants you have indeed been playing the most dangerous game. You are the elephant. You are the prize. And because you insisted upon this transformation no one will rest until you are slaughtered.<\/p>\n
The next time you see an elephant in a room, pause. Don\u2019t say anything. Slowly close your mouth, place your foot back on the floor, rest your trunk back in your lap, and do nothing. You will be the better for it.<\/p>\n
These are the rules of social engagement. Failure to adhere may prove deadly to your ego.<\/p>\n
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